My fiance is overseas and he loves me BUT?????

Question

I recently got engaged and before engagement i knew my fiance from only a month (i know it's funny) and now as it happens i am getting married (lo n behold) in less then two months. Coming from a country like India i know it's no big deal as my wedding may seem like in a hurry but i do love him n he loves me. Currently he's living alone and is overseas and he'l be coming here 15 days before the wedding. BUT BUT BUT my fiance has been called a CASANOVA before we met. All i am trying to say is that it PISSES THE HELL OUT OF ME just by thinking that god knows what he may be doing there right now. I know i may sound funny to you guys..he assures me that he's COMMITTED to me and in no terms can he even imagine doing something which may hurt me. But i am just insecure...WHAT SHOULD I DO TO STOP IMAGINEING THINGS LIKE THIS????????? I am very straightforward to him when i make myself clear on these terms...but i just can't stop getting pissed off because of his previous casanova image.

Answer 1

I think there's a culture gap, here. Tread carefully, try to avoid giving offence through ignorance.

There is love, and blind love. Blind love assumes your partner is perfect, and can be in for as rude shock. True love is knowing the worst about your partner, and saying "I can accept that".

Casanova loved a lot of women, and bedded most of them. People called that these days, are accused of bedding a lot of women, without any love. Depending on where he is, he may have gone on dates with women, which has led to a false reputation through rumours.

The important thing is, it is YOU he wants now. Just you, nobody else is good enough. I hope you want HIM, and nobody else. Tell him of your love.

And tell him what you'd do to him if he were to stray AFTER the marriage. Calmly, and in detail. Show him the knife you will keep sharp, just in case. Explain how your relative would hold him down and help.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If you cannot trust him (if you did, you wouldn't get angry) how can you possibly enter into a marriage with him? Sounds to me like you need to take some more time to get to know him before doing something that is easy to get into (marriage) and hard to get out of (divorce).

Answer 4

if he is from India,,, you better run like hell.. you know what you are getting into.. so get out while you can..