I told a girl friend of many years that I needed to talk to her. She talked to me, and I told her I liked her a whole lot, but I thought we should remains friends. I think we have two distinct directions in life. She agreed and remained friends, but she now has no problem talking to me about the deepest subjects such as marriage and life goals. I often tell her the deepest desires and longings of my heart thinking we are friends; I have even told her everything down to how I feel about her. Basically, she knows everything about me, and she now acts close to me, wants to dance with me, plays footsie with me, and discusses deep topics she would discuss with no one else. Did I make a mistake here? Was I too open?
2007-01-29 03:25:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HI
Mistake if you don't feel the same as her you'll have to let her go completely so she can move on.
Lammy
2007-01-29 03:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Clammy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have sent mixed messages. Most women are momentary, what is happening at the moment is what is happening. You need a sit down talk with this lady and set the stage. Don't forget that you have grown closer to her, if you want to be closer to her - do so.
You are not committing to building and life does not stop. The relationship can stop without lost, but things can not continue if there is no future goal. You have arrived, you arrived months ago to the point of friendship. Be real grow or move on.
2007-01-29 03:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are way too open. Although it's wonderful to have someone close that we trust and can confide in, no one should tell another person "everything" about themselves.
You explained to her that you want to remain "friends" so I don't understand your question, "is she truly not interested"??? She sounds like she's "interested", and I think if you confide in her, you are unintentionally leading her on. You are sending her mixed signals.
Perhaps you should have another conversation with her to make your intentions "clear". In the future, I'd refrain from making your life an open book.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 03:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sending mixed signals now, do you want to be friends or more. Women still usually let the guy make the first move. Find the right moment and give her a little kiss. I think it will become a big kiss soon after that on her initiative.
2007-01-29 03:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted a friendship and you got a friendship. What is your problem? You have to decide if you don't want that deep of a friendship with her or if you might want to make it more than that. It doesn't seem to me from what you have said that she has a problem with the relationship the way that it is now.
2007-01-29 03:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by J J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly this close, then what's stopping you from coming right out with it?? The framework has been laid, hon! SO JUST ASK!! In plain simple English, talk to her!
2007-01-29 03:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the one confused. i think you need to persue this chick.
2007-01-29 03:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋