I can forgive my wife for having written a love letter to her classmate after 13 years of our marriage. But I am broke now and she is semi-broke as my assets are sold for various purposes and her are withheld by her parents who hate me from day 1 of our marriage. Anyway, I hate their influence on her which drives me crazy and we had fights about it many a time and I don't give a damn about her property or her parents. Their reaction to her affair was to ask her get out of her sister's house where we are staying now, she for immigration and me in job search. Should I ask her to cut off this relation with her parents which strained our relation so much that I abused her sometimes when I got drunk and drove her to seek emotional support elsewhere?Though I forgive her and forget her love affair, should I make clear to her that I don't want her to continue her relation with her parents either which strained our marriage much? Maybe,I feel the ball is in my court now and I truly love her.
2007-01-29 03:14:05 · 5 answers · asked by havah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Money is not criteria here as I ask her to leave that to me. I have a job now and am searching for better one. How can I allow her parents who been callous to me and careless about her pull the strings of our relationship? They never botherd about us except to inject venom into her which was soon passed onto me? I hate to depend on anybody , least of all on her relations.
2007-01-29 03:40:50 · update #1
HI
Do it nicely, the parents are a problem so just tell her nicely about it. You'll probably have to calm her and stay calm even she yells or picks another fight stay on topic don't get distracted, but stop abusing her she needs them for support when you abuse her. You can't have it both ways step up and be her proper care giver as a husband.
Lammy
2007-01-29 03:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Clammy S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what her parents have done, it would be wrong for you to ask her to cut her ties with them. She will hate you. The separation has to be her decision. I don't think she will as keeping them close makes her feel secure. You do not. You have abused her in the past, she will not forget that. Unless you can get back on your feet and prove to her you can take care of her, without her parents help, she will emotionally move further and further away from you. You will lose her. You should also get some help with your drinking, or perhaps anger management
2007-01-29 11:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up guy, there is nothing wrong with the parents. It is you, take care of your business and the parents will fall by the way side. It is possible that the lady may go to her parents, in that case you still have to take care of your business.
Make a life that is livable for yourself and your girlfriend, you will both grow strong and happy. Learn that the foundation of a life is the same foundation for a family. If you don't want to get married, you still have to build a strong foundation. That means buy a house.
2007-01-29 11:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not avoid her from communicating with her parents. That is her decision to make, secondly you'll should see a marriage counselor and work out your marital issues and also pray and ask God to bless your marriage this is the only way alcohol makes matters worst. Get your life in order, get a job and your own apartment move out from by her sister. Her family thinks that you cannot provide for her hence the reason they dislike you. Get your act straight and prove them wrong.
2007-01-29 11:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You abused her and you expect her now to listen to you?
Get a life and get some help and therapy
2007-01-29 11:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋