Please take no offense to this, I am in a relationship and have a regular sex life. But sometimes when alone do it myself. Is it wrong to keep from my boyfriend? He also enjoys watching. How do i become more comfortable infront of him. Please only helpful answers. Thanks.
2007-01-29 03:13:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have done it in front of him before, but i get uncomfortable and stop. The blind folding sounds good. Thanks everyone!
2007-01-29 03:26:04 · update #1
There aren't many who don't enjoy a little (at least) solo sex. It's your body and always has been. I don't know why your boyfriend would care as long as you aren't replacing your time with him with time alone.
I don't know many men who don't enjoy seeing a woman engage in this private kind of activity. Mine loves to watch but usually quickly joins in to help. It can be a great way to educate him as to what kind of touch does it for you as well as being quite a delight to him as men are such visual creatures.
Your comfort level is sure to increase as you do it more often and in different situations. My boyfriend will often guide my hand during intercourse in any position that allows it.
It's all about caring for one another and for yourself. Sex is supposed to be fun, freeing and the best in good feelings for both partners. Talk to your man about it and I think you will find that he is quite receptive in this area. As long as your own touch is balanced with his, I think it can only add to your intimate time together.
Relax and enjoy one another.
2007-01-29 03:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need for a blindfold... just turn the lights down, or light candles and turn the lights off, and put on a little quiet music. Tell him to stay quiet until you feel comfortable.
I'm a lot older than my wife, and a heart patient at 46. My drive isn't what it was even ten years ago when I could go three or more times a day every day. I encourage my wife to do it when she's in the mood and I'm not, and yes I do help her out too! I don't want to deprive her of anything.
2007-01-29 11:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my first marrage. I had to Mword daily and she only gave in once a week. And that was only because she felt obligated to do so. It's so much fun when you are the only one in the room that wants to have sex. yeah. right! Then she walked in on me once and told me how disgusting it was and how it made her feel bad that I would do this. Said it was all in my head.
So eventually I divorced her.
If she had encouraged me to Mword with her and if she would have acted as if this was really doing something for her we might still be together. You need to feel more confident about your body and know that Mword is not a dirty thing (I don't care what the priest said). enjoy your time together and share your fantasies. the more open you are the better this will work out.
2007-01-29 11:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so normal girl friend. I enjoy masterbating myself. Every once in a while I will feel sexy enough to perform for my man, but the mood has to be just right. I enjoy giving him direction on how to please me too. There have been times when I'll get going with my vibrator and when I'm ready for some real stuff have him enter me with the real thing, sex is fun and is if your comfortable enough with your body, you'll be comfortable enough to relax and masterbate in front of him.
2007-01-29 11:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that you want to do this in front of your boyfriend. Might get some Vibrators (my wife's favorite is the rabbit) and have him join in so you can each watch each other masturbate. Might also try a making a video for him to watch.
2007-01-29 11:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by LiL EarlE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he enjoys watching you do it then ask him to help you do it too. He'll love it and you will too! Just tell him sometimes you cant stop thinking about him and it drives you crazy so you have to go and pleasure yourself... he will feel great and it'll boost his ego and self confidence around you and then you two will be even closer then ever before!
2007-01-29 11:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by my spill canvas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To become more comfortable you have to +ask him to help u at first and then continue on your own. In the end you wont even think about it and after a few times you'll be comfortable...
2007-01-29 11:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by matis g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you do it in front of him the more comfortable you will be or blind fold youself so you can think hes not watching
2007-01-29 11:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by silver_princess16_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him help, it may break the barrier which makes you uncomfortable. If that doesnt work just do it when he is out, he will be none the wiser.
2007-01-29 11:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax, close your eyes or use a blindfold, while he watches. Or let him listen while you do it over the phone. Guys love this, so enjoy it
2007-01-29 11:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kev's Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋