other for about 8 months. but we still remained in contact with each other and have/had feelings for each other. we would hang out sometimes and he was the person i went to for help with things. although he still acted cold towards me for reasons and seemed like at times he wanted me not around and times he did. which i was confused, angry and hurt. just recently we had a talk and he asked some questions about things that i 've done i told him yes, i met someone and we had relations. he was upset and asked me more questions about it. now ladies when i went to his apt. i saw evidence of him sleeping with some. so now i ask him questions he made up many exuces and did tell me or confess to what he did even after i told him what i did. ok, he tells me 5 days later that yes he did something. the day i had to go home several towns away to vist my family and 7 days b/f my 25th birthday. i am extremely hurt that he lied for a whole 1month to me. i can not forgive him and dont wan
2007-01-29 03:09:41 · 19 answers · asked by caramelbunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HI
A relationship with this man will always be one sided, he can do anything and still expect to be loved but you can't, these men have no real feelings for the woman but only for themselves! dump him he will do it over and over but if you do it he will not forgive you. Been there and dumped that.
Lammy
2007-01-29 03:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Clammy S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but you did say that he was your FORMER boyfriend, which means that YOU HAD BROKEN UP with him. It really doesn't matter if you were 'honest' with him after he asked you but then he 'lied' to you about the 'same question' ... because WHATEVER HAPPENED between you and other people and between him and other people was 'outside' of your former relationship. I think that you both may have been 'hoping' to get back together as a couple, but that the 'other people' you slept with while you were 'broken up' have now come between you. THAT IS SAD ... but since you say that you 'can not forgive him' then you have answered your own question, and you need to 'just drop him' (and not see him, even as a friend) and move on. I'm sorry, but the 'timing' of his finally telling you the 'truth' was simply coincidental, but if you think about it, it was maybe a good early birthday present ... because no matter how much it 'hurt and angered you' when it happened, you are now 'FREE' to get into a NEW (and hopefully much better) RELATIONSHIP and have a happy life.
2007-01-29 03:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you both made the decision to no longer be committed - then it is ok that you have both had other relationships. Many people lie so they won't hurt the other person - not a good option, but a popular one. It sounds like you both still have feelings for each other. Maybe it is time to redefine the relationship. But if you do then it will only work if you start over fresh and forget what has happened in the past. Takes maturity to pull that off, but will be well worth it. Good luck!
2007-01-29 03:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then don't forgive him. one thing you will find out in life is that men hate and most the time won't own up to theirs. they will make you feel terrible for what you done but when they do something that's fine. what I don't understand is that you 2 were not committed to each other so what does it matter if both of you was trying to move on or get your groove on? I say let it ride in the wind and if you are going to make it then do it. if not then go your ways.
2007-01-29 03:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. That's messed up. You're not together but you are. Well, your both kinda single....and visit each other. Well, I guess he was angry that you recovered from your past relationship with him, but he as doing the same...so that stinks. It's a total double standard. You be honest to each other of what your relationship truly is. I'm just as confused as you are.
2007-01-29 03:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that if someone is seeing someone else they become suspicious of you. It sounds like you guys don't have a commited relationship but, it hurts when you see other people.
You can't have the best of both worlds and 2 wrongs don't make a right.
2007-01-29 03:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut. If you can't trust him now, that wont change. You deserve better. You'll find someone someday with whom you can have a trusting, open, honest relationship. The hard part is patience. I think it's better to be single and have your pride than to be in a relationship that isn't uplifiting.
2007-01-29 03:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't hurt about it because honey whether u believe it or not, men lie. if they have feelings for you or not, they lie. he may not have wanted to hurt you or he may not have even cared about you. sometimes friendships after relationships don't work, especially when there are still feelings involved. you two may need to leave it alone for a minute, mature within, and then give your friendship a try later.
2007-01-29 03:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by U Think U Know Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you cant trust him now that wont change----its hard to gain someones trust when they dont want to let you trust by showing you with their actions that you will be able to trust them again. You will always have that in the back of your mind.
2007-01-29 03:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by msann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a jealous guy, and he just wants his cake and to eat it too...i think he doesn't want other guys to have you, yet he wants to meet other girls and sleep with them...i'll bet that girl wasn't the first one he has been with. sounds like you really need to move on and find soomeone new...it is hard to stay friends with an ex without having things like this happen...
2007-01-29 03:17:06 · answer #10 · answered by kristina43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋