She is going through a tough breakup with her soon to be Ex. She’s not talking to anyone. But I know she is going through a tough time. I miss her. I want to express, in some way, that I hope she’s doing well but I don’t want to encroach or smother her. Ladies you know it’s a turn-off when a guy seems “desperate” or “needy”. So what can I do at a distance here without seeming like I’m bothering her?
2007-01-29 03:01:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, I have the same exact situation. First i want to say becareful, shes on a rebound and things can get iffy since she might just want a companionship. On the other hand, if you play it right, she might warm up to you. I have the same situation and coming from my experience, dont try too hard. She seems to need her space and you should still keep your options open because you have to prepare your mindset that you are ready to let her go if you have to. My suggestion is, keep her as a friend but dont let your feelings for her overcome you. Keep your distance away from her so she can think about her situation. And as for you, it helps you keep your feelings from overflowing you. Again, you dont want to fall for her now, you need to keep your distance and let things flow naturally. when shes ready or if shes ready, she might come to you. But right now, play it safe and be close friends. Remember, protect your heart and dont fall too hard for her, you can get dissapointed very easily.
2007-01-29 03:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you respect her decision and that whenever she needs to talk that you want to be there for her. Then just leave her alone or you are right, you will appear to be desperate and needy. I personally never understood this thing "I need space". Especially when someone is going through a separation you would think it would be the time that you would want someone to be there to lean on. Could it be she still has issues regarding her ex and needs time to work out her feelings? In any case, keep your eyes and ears open so that you are not blinded into thinking there is a chance when in fact there isn't. Hopefull it will all turn out for you for the best.
2007-01-29 11:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she says she needs space, then by all means give it to her, a woman never says that unless she really means it. a good way to let her know you're there for her without smothering her is to write her a little letter in a card to send in the mail, telling her that you empathize with the rough time she's going through, and if ever she needs someone to talk to, that you would be happy to be there for her.
2007-01-29 11:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a letter or maybe card sent in the mail would be ok. But don't be too forward or descriptive. Just hope she is well and let her know you are there for her to talk to. She needs to figure her thoughts out and you don't want her to feel cornered. Good luck.
2007-01-29 11:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it seems like she has some baggage here, so tread lightly.
if you want to wait for her, do it from the sidelines in a way that is non-obtrusive.
Yeah, no girl likes a pushy guy, so let her work out her business and stay close enough to observe but not interfere.
2007-01-29 11:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Text her: I don't want to bother you, but i know that you are going to a tough time. If you need anything, just call me anytime! You are not alone!
2007-01-29 11:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Instant Problemsolver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email her or text her and say "I know you're going through a rough patch right now. If you need anything, you know where to find me." Then leave it at that. She knows you're available to talk, and when she wants to, she will.
2007-01-29 11:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by oj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to her like a friend would. if you like her keep the touchy feely things to yourself right now. she just needs her time to get over him and when she does you will be right there beside her.
2007-01-29 11:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_rain 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are desperate and needy or you would find somebody who is emotionally available instead of this twisted thing.
2007-01-29 11:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Respect her wishes.
2007-01-29 11:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋