When my guy is angry at me he calls me every name in the book. I mean horrible names no respectable woman should be called. he has no limits or boundaries to what he will say , I tell him traumatizing to me and he tells me that's life and to get out of my fairy tale world. It is hard for me to bellieve he loves me if he could say all these things to me. Andif he does love me how colud he stand to hurt me this way.
2007-01-29 02:57:30 · 22 answers · asked by DKNY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have already told him how much those names hurt and he reacts as though it's your fault, you have your answer. He does not respect you. And without respect, there is no love. Please get counseling for yourself, and get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Good Luck!
2007-01-29 03:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definitely sounds like he has an anger problem. I think it's time for you to take a good look at this relationship and what you are getting out of it. A relationship should make you a better person, make you feel good about yourself and feel safe around the other person. Be careful, his rage may get out of hand one day. The name calling must stop because it is tearing you down, making you feel bad about yourself and you don't deserve that....no one does. A man should be protective of his girl and compliment her, not tear her apart. He should get some help and you should get out before he hurts you physically and not just emotionally. What he is doing to you is called mental abuse. Don't allow yourself to continue to be a victim. Stand up for yourself and get the l;ove you deserve. Walk away from him now.You will be glad you did.
2007-01-29 11:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like that for 2 years and it was completely horrible. Don't let him do it. There are plenty of guys out there that would love to live in your fairy tale world. My mom always told me that "The guy who makes me cry is not worth crying over... The guy worth crying over will never make me cry." I don't know if that makes much sence to you but if you think about it, it's true. No guy should be that mean to someone he "loves." It might hurt to let him go but in the long wrong you could be a lot happier. Good luck and STAY STRONG!!!
2007-01-29 11:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the roses. He is using you and does not love you. When a man truly loves you he treats you with respect and dignity. Are you being treated this way? Get out why you can. If you insist on staying in that abusive relationship then you both need to go to counseling now. If he refuses then pack his things up and kick his butt out. A good man would never treat you like that.
2007-01-29 11:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Life" doesn't mean you have to be verbally abused and disrespected by your boyfriend. To tell you the truth, guys in a normal healthy relationship don't do this to their girlfriends. There is no reason why you should stay with him and continue to put up with this. You don't deserve it and you can do so much better. You should be with someone that respects you.
2007-01-29 11:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by gobanana516 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hard. If you have expressed how you feel to him there isnt a hole lot you can do. Try to stay tuff and calm. If it continues I would tell him that you wont be able to stay in the relationship because it is hurting your self esteem and making you feel like you have no self worth. Hopefully he will shape up. If not i would say as hard as it is, move on. You dont deserve to be tretated that way.
2007-01-29 11:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he has anger issue's and that is dangerous.
Second, he has no respect for you, which means he does not love you. Saying "I Love You" and actually displaying his love for you are two different things.
This should be a sign that you are much better off without him.
Nobody deserves or should tolerate being treated with such abuse.
2007-01-29 11:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone that loves you will not go so far as calling you horrible names that no respectable woman should be called. Have some respect for yourself and dump the bum
2007-01-29 11:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't get any better till he's too old to rave! He's certainly not of the opinion that he is YOUR GUY. He be da KING in his own mind!After he finds you will live with his mouthy tantrums he will move on to physical abuse and see how well you like that. Lordy I hope you get out, there are lots of great men out there.
2007-01-29 11:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lowell R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of "his world", he will only get worst, and no one shold be treated like that. Yea, you might "love" him, and if you think he will honestly change, then hang in there, but I do not forsee it. I have seent guys like that all my life and its takes a drastic measure to make someone change, and sometims it still does not work. Good Luck and be careful.
2007-01-29 11:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋