I love him but I am really worried about his health. I know I get kindve nasty telling him he is fat and I tell him what he should and shouldn't eat, ect.
What should I do to help him??
2007-01-29 02:57:00 · 6 answers · asked by zaeli22 3 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
You are ugly.Well ugly on the inside.Dont ever tell him he is fat.Oh by the way.I bet you got mad when you read me saying you are ugly.Imagine how he feels when the one he loves tells him he is fat.
2007-01-29 03:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harping won't work. Start by HELPING him. Take over the grocery shopping, and cook the meals that he should be eating. Don't be an enabler and buy junk food. If you see him lying on the couch, ask him if he wants to take a walk. These are little things you can do to get him in the right direction.
Honestly, he probably won't do anything until he is ready to lose weight. You should probably have a frank discussion about his weight - that you are scared that he will die, that you love him too much to watch him suffer this way, and most importantly that you will be a partner in his efforts to lose weight.
2007-01-29 11:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, quit telling him he is fat. You might think that would hurt him enough to motivate him, but it doesn't. It only hurts him. He needs to know that you love him, no matter what, but that you also want him around for a long, long time and that his weight will affect his health. Help him as much as you can by encouraging him to drink water instead of other sugary beverages. Take a walk with him. Learn to fix him low-fat meals. Go with him to the doctor to discuss options. Yes, I said "GO WITH HIM TO THE DOCTOR". If you don't go with him, the doctor will just throw him a calorie sheet and say "follow this diet". Maybe he can join Weight Watchers and you can go with him to the meetings. (Yes, there are men at WW).
Just be there to encourage him. However, you can't do it for him or make him do it. He will have to want to do it for himself, not for you. I wish you the best. I know how you feel. Really I do.
2007-01-29 11:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't TELL him what to do nor nag him about it. You will only make it worse and his rebellious side will continue to eat what makes him fat. It would be more beneficial if you "discuss" his weight with him. Letting him know you love him, you are concerned about his health, you want to make sure you get to spend as much time with him in your life, etc. etc. and if he is willing to lose weight, you will support him and help him in anyway, even if it means keeping the cupboards filled with HEALTHY snacks and foods or even exercising with him. The nagging affect doesn't work. When women realize this, they will benefit greatly and get more things done.
2007-01-29 11:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by S H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't push him. Unless he wants to do something about it, you can grip until your face turns blue. When he is ready to do something support him all the way. Don't down-grade him, it will only make him feel worse about himself. Give him positive compliments when he makes good food choices and does some exercise.
You telling him he is fat will only make him resent you.
2007-01-29 11:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by 'Lissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nagging will make it worse, try to get him to do things with you that are more active , like join the gym together.
2007-01-29 11:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by TaylorProud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋