Hi please help me explain to someone that I cannot be his gf?

Question

Actually since some time i have noticed a guy looking at me near my work place... he's very gd looking too... n after one month he has asked my phone number from one of my friends who knew him very well... now he just called me and seems very interested... the problem is that i came to know he's not as educated as me and i earn better than him... i always wanted to have a bf having a better post n better pay than me... i really regret that my friend gave my number (i asked her to give my number)... n he's calling me to tell me he wants to meet me tomorrow... Do i explain to him nicely what i am expecting from my partner? will he feel bad about it? i really dont know what to do... please help and advise me... thank u

Answer 1

you have the freedom to date whomever you choose and you also have the right to decide what kind of things you expect out of a mate. i might suggest trying one date out anyway, you never know if a high standard might make you lose out on someone good, but it's your life and saying you are just not interested in someone is perfectly okay and no reason should be necessary.

Answer 2

Though i can't understand the need to make less money or be less educated then a another person, much less your partner, i can understand the need for truth. If you really feel this is an important thing for you then tell him in an honest and hopefuly gentle way. As to how he may react, as guy i imagine is isnt going to be happy, cuz basicly you are telling him isnt smart enough to date you, but he may be okay about not being rich enough. To most people that makes you seem kinda stuck up and maybe a gold digger, and i am not trying to attack you, i am just be honest. That is prolly what he will see you as from that point.

But let me point something out to you... a colledge degree doesnt make someone intelligent. I have a few friends who have been through colledge or going through it now and still consider me among the most intellectualy stimulating friends they have, and no darlin' i have never seen the inside of a colledge class. But i have had life experiences and served in the military and have an open mind and love to read and have learned alot of things that way. SO maybe this doesnt guy doesnt have a degree and i am sure there r things that you know that he doesnt, but i am equally sure the same can be said for him. And as for the money, well he is just on a different rung of the professional lader then you and that could change on any given day... so ultimatly I guess i am saying you need to decide if you can look past his credintials and see the person you may regret not getting to know.

Answer 3

well nobody can blame u for having some expectations abt ur partner. do u thnik that u will be ahppy with a guy with a perfect job and education? he may not have all the qualities which u expect in ur bf. this guy who likes u may have it. u wont know unless u go out with him. why is it that u want a bf with a better pay.? is it becuase u think that if u have a better pay it is going to affect ur bfs ego?definitely there may be times when he may feel bad abt it, but only when u hurt his ego. if u treat him with respect and dignity, a lesser pay is not going to affect him much. there may come a time in ur life when currency notes will be no more valuable than scraps of paper. it is upto u to decide. i will advise u to go out wit him to find out more abt him. think over it. if u still feel that u cant accept him, u can tell him that u r happy that he wanted to meet u, but u cant think of a seripus relation now. u can tell him that u want to focus on ur career now. it would be better if u dont mention his education and job. it may hurt him really bad. think over it again and again and do what is best for u. all the best

Answer 4

I think that you should just tell him that at the moment you aren't looking for anything heavy - i.e girlfriend/boyfriend status, and that you'd really like to be his friend if that's possible. You obviously have certain values about a boyfriend and it is obviously making you feel not so great. Maybe go out for a drink with him sometime after you have had a chat with him as friends and maybe see where it leads to. You may then think that there is more to what you thought was the best way in choosing a boyfriend.

Answer 5

God no wonder you are still single. it's a date not a marraige proposal for all you know he'll want one date with you n thats it, why not give the guy a chance go on a date see how you get on with him then after the date if you still feel the same at least you can say you just didnt feel it, instead of making him feel small and degraded for all you know his family might not of been able to afford a further education and hes doing the best he can. i'd say he's worth ten times more than you, and always remember what goes around comes around.......

Answer 6

I think you might be jumping the gun abit with telling him what you want a potential partner to have on the first date!!!
Honestly I dont even think you should turn up on the date - that way you wont be leading him on even a little bit!
Just tell him that circumstances have changed for you and right now you're not interested in him but thank him for the interest he expressed in you
xx

Answer 7

i think you should except him for who he is rather than how big his status or wallet is! life is not just about jobs and money its about attraction friendship and love, you said you were attracted to him before you knew about his job and so on , why dont you pull your head out of the clouds and give this guy a chance.
maybe you need to gfrow up a little because thats a very immature attitude to have, if you go along in life rejecting people because they dont earn more or have a better job you could find yourself looking for a long time

Answer 8

How old is he? He still may be trying to find better jobs.
Why don't you go out with him once and give him a chance. Get to know him better, you may be suprised. Ask him what his passions are in life. What plans he has for the future. Then decided. Explain to him what you want in the future. See where it goes.

Answer 9

Are you serious? If you are, you are in for a rude awakening. Going for someone based on money will never likely end in your happiness. That's like going for looks only - they will fade. I say if you think he's attractive and nice, you should give this guy a chance, he may be your prince charming.

If you are truly that vain, just be honest and tell him that you are better than him and you can't possibly stoop to dating someone who is uneducated and makes less than yourself. (Sarcastically)

Answer 10

Dont dismiss him quite yet, Why not try going out on a date with him as you may find you really like him and the job and money thing may then not seem so important.