Why is so acceptable to have mutiple partners before marriage but during marriage, its taboo?

Question

I'm confused here, so apparently, its perfectly ok to sleep around while your dating. In fact screw as many people as possible. But then after marriage, oh my god, its the end of the world if you try to get freaky with somone other than your wife. Does marrige erase the past? If so, why do so many people still cheat anyway. Is marriage just a fairytale nowdays?

Answer 1

Thanks for being realistic about this whole marriage thing. I agree that marriage has taken a drastic downhill slope, what was once considered "sacred vows" are now meaningless words to justify and unwanted pregnancy or a means to obtain a green card. No one seems to know the word "fidelity" anymore. Dating is a joke and marriage is an even worse one. I'm afraid for the future, the way things are going, a loving, faithful and monogamous relationship are going to be things written in a history book.

Answer 2

In my opinion, marriage is the ultimate commitment to that one person that you've chosen to spend the rest of your life with. It has nothing to do with the Bible or any religious affilitations (or lack of). It's all about respect, honor and integrity. If you choose to make the ultimate commitment and marry this person, then you are choosing to give yourself to this person ONLY. Again this is just my opinion. Marriage doesn't erase the past but it closes the door on the past and creates a whole new future and there are many reasons that people cheat (of which all are disrespectful and none are honorable). If a person doesn't feel that they are getting what they need from their spouse then, instead of trying to talk to their spouse and work it out, they will find it elsewhere. Marriage is not a fairytale. It's just that too many people have lost sight of the real meaning of marriage.

Answer 3

Do you really even need to be asking this question?

To me the answer is pretty obvious...When you say your marriage vows you are committing yourself to that other person and that other person alone.

You shouldn't want to have multiple partners after you are married...and if you do, you didn't think long and hard enough about making that commitment to your wife before saying your vows.

No marriage is not a fairytale it is a commitment between a man and his wife, I believe our media and celebrities make people believe it is ok to hook up, get married and get divorced a short time later when "it just didn't work out!"

Answer 4

It's never acceptable to lure a person into the illusion of monogamy (within marriage or without) and then cheat on them. If, however, you have an open relationship that is enjoyed by both parties, you can continue that even beyond marriage. If sitting at home watching tv while your wife is on a date with a hot guy irritates you, then there's your answer - don't do to others what you don't want done to yourself. If, however, you have no problem with that, then you have truly found your ideal partner and I wish you well.

Answer 5

Who said it was acceptable to sleep with around while your dating? Well to answer your question, once you make a committment before God to be monagamous with one person for the rest of your life, cheating is very much frowned upon. Marriage doesn't erase the past, but your life with your partner begins when you say "I Do". People cheat anyway for many reasons, and nowadays it does seem like a fairytale. My parents have worked hard to sustain a happy 25 year marriage, and hopefully I will follow in those same footsteps.

Answer 6

Well to alot of people it's not perfectly ok to sleep around before marriage or cheat.
But after marriage you've made a commitment to one another. It's by law called adultery, so if your partner wants a divorce after you've cheated....they win and they can take you for everything.
Why even get married if your not going to stay faithful.
I don't understand why people still have affairs all the damn time. I guess it's a part of them that just hasn't grown up yet.

Answer 7

Wrong - who said it was "acceptable" to sleep around while dating? I've never heard of that. It is completely unacceptable to sleep around while dating - it's called dating not sex party with whomever. While I understand your question, marriage does somewhat erase the past because you are vowing that you will stay with that person 'til death due you part.' Well, that's what the vows say but people who don't know the meaning of marriage end up cheating, like you say.

I don't believe marriage is a fairytale, I believe that it's not the institution of what it used to be though.

Answer 8

It's not ok to sleep around, whether your married or not. Marriage is a union and a bond between a man and woman that says I love this person and are committed in every facet of your life. Your wife should be the only one that satisfies you and the only one that you desire to be with. Look at the vows of marriage, if you feel like your missing out on other "booty" then don't even get married.

Answer 9

Because a marriage is supposed to be a commitment of two people to one another. What is the point in getting married if you're going to have other partners?

Also, I don't really think it is ok to sleep around while you're dating, but I see what you mean that it is generally acceptable in society.

Answer 10

By the standards of the bible having sex before marriage is fornication and is considered a sin.After marriage if you have sex with someone other than who you pledged to God to be true to, it's adultery and is also a sin.It's unfortunate that this world has turned into another Sodom and Gommorah.If you are a believer, they got destroyed for sleeping with and doing whatever with whom they wanted and I believe that God will not let this go on much longer.In a nutshell, we have no morals.