kicked him out. I dont think they were doing anything, but he knew how I felt about her. He dated her when we broke up previously last year. It hurt me really bad and we got back together.
We have been off and on for 6 years. I love him, but I was not very happy over all. We never did anything and he always went out with his friends. I dont mind him going out with friends, but it was like every night or every other night. I was just tired of it all - cleaning and cooking and him leaving.
It has been a month and now he says he wants to be with me he loves me. I keep telling him I cant trust him and he hurt me bad. I said you had a month to show me and you didnt. Am I wrong? How is a relationship supposed to be after 6 years? Should I wait until he acts like he wants to be with me,going out etc? Or just leave him alone for a while? Im scared of losing him, and Im scared of living my life not knowing if there was someone who would treat me better.We will always be close.
2007-01-29 02:49:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a relationship like this back in the 80s. We'd be fine for a few months and then have a big fight and go our separate ways for a month. After two years I was sick and tired of it. It turns out that she'd get interested in some cowboy or other dude who happened to have a big truck (I was a city boy, but steady and gainfully employed and drove a Mustang).
Being a guy I'd keep taking her back because she was good looking and the lovemaking was good. BUT... you can only take so much. She was furious when I split if off with her for good, and I haven't seen her since 1991. I got tired of being the "old reliable" guy who would forgive her for everything. Being a doormat is no fun.
Break it off for good with this guy. Move on. You can do better. Why are you scared of losing him? You shouldn't be!
2007-01-29 03:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look your situation is kind of complicated and the only thing that makes me even make a decision or give you any advice is when i read your story and only thing i see is that you extremely unhappy. That is not the way you stay in relationship. You been together for 6 years but not even married so to be honest it doesnt sound good at all. I dont see good future for both of you. He apparently dont even value what you in the house, cooking, cleaning, trying to make him comfortable. Not sure how your sex life goes but maybe that is lose and you need to work on that. That is definitely a no go if after gets home, he eats, shits and goes out to eat. Sounds like he found a good warm spot here that never complains or demands attention from him. You are one hella patient woman. Get away from him and get away from him fast. Please do it for yourself. OMG i cant believe you are still there. He probably cheating on you if he is always out of the house. If he dont make love to you like he used to and come home only to eat and sleep then he got someone else. Please do yourself a big big favor and finaly leave him for good.
2007-01-29 11:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are guys out there who will treat you better. You keep ending the relationship for a reason. You should stop going back. Don't stay in the relationship because you are afraid of being alone. Aren't you feeling alone IN the relationship anyway?
Another thing, but I don't mean to be a hater. You implied that if you do walk away from this relationship, you will always be close to your boyfriend, right? Yet, the major problem of your relationship with him is that he still seems close to his ex. Alanis would say, "Isn't that ironic?"
2007-01-29 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being afraid is a part of living. fear of being alone is something everyone feels at some point... which normally leads to many people staying with someone undeserving of them because they know they'll stay together.
sounds like you know that the relationship won't work anymore you're just afraid to admit it to your heart.
he knew how you felt about the subject and disappointed you by doing it anyways.
take a good look at yourself and realize you deserve better and if being alone for a little bit is what it takes then so be it. during that time you'll be able to grow as a person and find out what you truely need out of another person.
best of luck.
2007-01-29 10:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Back*To*Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't showed you or told you how much he really loves you in the entire six year of the relationship then you already have your answer. Stop wasting your time and effort in a person who's not even worth it and find somebody who will reciprocate those fellings in return. In other words MOVE ON!!!!! You can do better.
2007-01-29 10:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by LIBRA34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scare of loosing anyone. Is he your only source for survival? If not, then let him go. There are more men out there who would love to live with you and get a cooked meal and sex everyday.
2007-01-29 10:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lana817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should give him another chance just to see if he'll do right by you or not and on the other hand if you feel like you need some time alone you should do that to see how you really feel about him.
2007-01-29 11:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hd d same prblm !!!! jus dt i wsnt livin wit him bt ws wit him day n nite n wud b on d fne wit him..... ne ways bout ur prblm...... if u kno dt he wnt out wit his ex wen u guys brke up 4 jst a mnth... i'd suggest u 4get him.... strt a new life... wait 4 a wile... 4get d relationship!!! its fun.... coz wen u get bk... u cnt 4get wt he did 2 ya...!!! everytime u guys fight also u will b reminded o' it.... so id suggest 4get d guy n strt a new life wit ur frenz 4 nw!!! n i wud deffinately nt expect my 6yr bf 2 do dt 2 me!!!! if u dnt like my advice pls 4get it!! if it hlps ya.... m hppy 4 u...if u 4get him der will definately b a prson JUST 4 U... so dnt wry.... hpe i hlpd...!! tc.. all d best!!!!!
2007-01-29 11:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by !!*mE*!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him, find someone who has time for you and appreciates you and all that you do.
2007-01-29 10:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋