Ladies, why is it so tough to hook up with the right one? Im on my mid 20's and I feel like settling down for good. I dont want to play games anymore. EVery new relationship gets my hopes up but ends been a disappointment. Is it just me? Or I just have not find the right one? Is there such thing as the right one? Its just so damn tough to get over a girl I used to love so much. But her feelings eroded quite fast and I cant figure out what went wrong? I mean, I tried my best to keep it going, but she just wont help things work out. What have I done wrong, why is it so tough to move on? I know I should just forget about her, but I cant help it. Ladies, what can I do. Im on a verge of mental breakdown........Its so damn tough, I wish I can just meet a new girl today and help me move on in life. Its just too much for me to handle....
2007-01-29 02:47:11 · 7 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's sounds to me that you haven't really got over that special girl you used to love so much. So how can you expect any new relationship to work? Do you expect your new girlfriends to be your band aid? If you want a healthy happy relationship, then you have to be a healthy and happy person yourself.
Don't take me wrong, i know it sounds harsh. But I'm in the same situation as you except I'm 33. And I've been in and out into relationships after my "special" girl left me in a nasty way. So if you wanna be exactly where you are when you are 33, then don't change anything about yourself, just hope that a girl who will save you will appear in your life.
But if you want to be able to move on faster, then start with yourself. Build up your confidence by building up yourself. Exercise, hang out with your friends and family, travel, take a course in something, do yoga or tai chi simply put, invest in yourself, and you will be rewarded with better health, self esteem and better relationships.
Good luck!
2007-01-29 07:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by Instant Problemsolver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to start focusing on you. You don't need a woman to complete who you are. Try doing things that you enjoy to take your mind off of being with someone. Hang out with your friends. Get a pet.
Yes getting over someone that you have feelings for is difficult. But it will get easier with time.
Here is my question to you....How long are you dating someone before you think she is the one? If it is not a very long time then maybe you a rushing it a little.
Maybe you should just slow the relationship down a little. Play a little harder to get. Make the women chase you for a while. Don't tell her you love her too soon. It might be scaring her away.
The right one will come along eventually. Just start loving yourself and find out who you are first.
Good Luck!
2007-01-29 10:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by cmssko 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad that you didn't marry her. Think of how much worse it could be. But don't let her get you down. She wasn't the one. You should never settle less than what you should have. The right one is out there. It takes time to get over someone you love but it helps if you accept that she's not the one for you and the real one is out there somewhere. Sometimes the trip is disappointing but good things come to all in time.Keep the faith.
2007-01-29 10:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by beaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
read these books they will change your life
Boundaries in dating by john ma cloud and loving smart by Dr.Phil
We learn something from every relationship.
time is a healer. go to some counseling an do not jump in to a rebound relationship. you could really get hurt or hurt someone.
work on self esteem issues.God bless you
hurts but you will live and one day the real deal with come.
I takes two. you cant make no one love you or stay with you.
God bless the broken road the led me to where i am today.
It made me stronger i love wiser and i so appreciate the wonderful man in my l ife now.
Take any relationship slow very slow.
Read the books especially boundaries.
You will laugh ;cry and want to kick your own butt.
It will help you to understand to love wiser and to grow.
You are a gift and a blessing to some lucky girl out there.
You gotta be ready to go Thur that door when it opens and it will! God bless
2007-01-29 11:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by tennessee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you find someone new, it will help you get over the other girl, someone new will help take your mind off of her, but you want to make sure it is not a rebound thing because that would never work, Yes I so believe that there is someone for everyone, and you will knwo who she is when you meet her, you sound like a sweet guy and I'm sure you will find that special someone. Good Luck.
2007-01-29 10:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay you know what? i have been through my hurtful relationships (yes even though im young) and i know the problem with people like you. no offense. you are only getting what you gave out in the past. see its men like you that make girls like that in the first place. you should have been done 'playing games' a long time ago, but i can't blame you for that. you need to focus on now. show her how you really feel. girls LOVE attention but only when it is positive except when we are on our period. (watch out for that) but if even after all that attention she still doesn't warm up to you, im sorry bud but move on. who knows? she may be the type that likes to see guys chase after her and it might bug her if you at least fake like your moving on. whatever happens just know that the pain doesn't last forever. it only seems that way now. best of luck to you
2007-01-29 10:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Poison berry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder the same thing about men...maybe you are codependant and need to find some other interests in life than just women.
2007-01-29 10:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by zaeli22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋