3 year old will not give up pacifier?

Question

my 3 year old daughter will not give up her pacifier(noonie),she will not take it out of her mouth, she talk with it , i feel it's gonna give her a lisp , and her teeth are rounded , she can't sleep without it , and my wife can't take the cryin ,so she let's her have it. and even worse she has to have a backup noonie in her hand......and she will not sleep alone .............help , the guy on the couch

Answer 1

cut the nipple part off of all of the pacifiers, since she can't suck on them , she'll get bored and give them up.

Answer 2

I think you're going to have to put your foot down. The pacifier will give her a lisp and cause problems with her teeth. I understand from your wife's POV that it's hard to listen to the crying, and it makes you feel like the most horrible person in the entire world, but point out to her that she'll feel even worse when your daughter has to take years of speech therapy and get made fun of by other kids.

Take them away. Get rid of every single noonie you have and don't give in.

Answer 3

lay down that law dad! it may not be easy but 3 is way to old to have a pacifier and guess what? you shoul NOT be on the couch. you are tha man of the house! let your daughter cry it out, throw all the pacifiers away, and make sure to cut off the tips first. by the 4th night you will be back in bed and you will have done your daughter and her teeth a huge favor. check on her every 1/2 hour to comfort her while she cries and get wifey some headphones.

Answer 4

Three is too old. If she won't take it out to talk, it will harm her speech development, her teeth and her independence later on. Your wife needs to get over it and listen to the crying for a while, if your daughter was doing something else harmful to herself, like sticking her fingers in outlets but she cried every time she was scolded, would you let her do that? No offense, but it sounds like your wife is taking the easy way out and your daughter probably has her wrapped around her finger. Do you really want to give in to manipulation from a three year old? I'm not saying just yank it out of her mouth, take the smokers approach and allow her to have it less and less every day, then just at night then not at all. Explain to her that people can't understand her, that it's hurting her teeth and that growing up means giving up the binkie. Pacifiers are intended to comfort infants, not pre-schoolers.

Answer 5

Sounds like you need to take it away from your wife!
Anyway, what really needs to be done here is to have your daughter be the one to throw it in the trash, however, just prior to that event a couple of things need to happen; convencing her that 'big girls' do NOT have pacifiers and get her some type of replacement article. Then, hopefully, your daughter and wife will be able to live without the pacifier.
I have 3 children (grown with families of their own now) and the only time I purchased a pacifier was with the first one. He kept pulling it out of his mouth and tossing it so I figured he just didn't need it so I tossed it in the trash. The next 2 didn't have them either. I found other ways to let them have items close to them for comfort and was extremely lucky to never have to go through a situation like yours.
I also never had issues with them sleeping by themselves either. I always read to them, they had their favorite stuffed animal with them, made sure they had a night light and soft soothing music.
I, personally, feel a child's bad habit (i.e. pacifier, etc.) is the result of the parent allowing the child to be the adult.
Good luck!

Answer 6

Take them all away (but don't let her see) and tell her that the pacifier fairy came and took them all because she is now too big and little babies need them. Then take her out for a surprise toy or something and make a big deal about it, maybe have a little party or something to commemorate it. I know it sounds silly but it might just work.

Answer 7

3 is too old to still have one, your wife is just gonna have to put up with the crying. Tell her that she is a big girl and they dont have a pacifier, you and your wife both have to be the parents and dont let her control you all.

Answer 8

when I was a babysitter I had the SAME problem with one of the girls I babysat. You have to look at it through a three year olds eyes. I talked to her, found out which one she liked better, (easter bunny, santa, tooth fairy etc) she picked the tooth fairy. then for the next few days I talked to her about how great it would be if she mailed it to the easter bunny so he could have it. after a few days of trying she believed me. We went to the post office, got a box, stamp some bubble wrap, waited until after the mail had come, and wrapped it up tight in the box labled it to the easter bunny and we both walked out to the mailbox and put it in. She never though about it again. try thinking like she does. it might work for ya...couldnt hurt

Answer 9

You're the parent-- you decide when it needs to be taken away.

So what if she throws a tantrum- you'd better let he know who's boss now before it gets really bad and she knows she can control you and the situation all the time.

Just take it away, she'll learn to deal with it.

Answer 10

Goody,Goody...I were waiting for this question all week! My daughter is practically 2 and is very verbal, so i assumed it became time for her to renounce her pacifier. So i tried to be ingenious. She has been searching on the construct-A-undergo save for months begging to bypass in, so I took her to the mall very last Saturday and enable her top interior the window. even as we were searching at at each and every of the attractive animals I enable her suck on her pacifier and requested her if she needed a undergo. She of direction reported "convinced" and gave it to me no longer even hesitating! Then, I advised her she had to inform her %. bye-bye if she needed one. We went interior the save and she or he picked out the animal of her selection. We did each and every of the steps of creating the undergo and positioned he pacifier interior the undergo's abdomen in the previous stitching and advised it bye-bye. We named the undergo %. undergo. My daughter has been doing tremendous! i am going to assume my palms and ft what number cases she has requested for her %. or maybe as she does I tell her or hand her the undergo names %. and tell her it is in her tummy. Then, she is going about her agency. the first nighttime she fell asleep squeezing her undergo tight and did not cry. One week later we are nonetheless doing tremendous! ***SHE became VERY VERY ADDICTED!!! COULDN"T bypass to sleep without THE PACIFIER. this technique worked tremendous for us, i imagine in view that they do no longer thoroughly lose the convenience of their pacifier and continually recognize the position it is. that is likewise a sentimental souvenir for mom and pa too, even a tremendous memoir for his or her destiny new child! I even video recorded our vacation, for a souvenir. good luck and be ingenious!!!! be particular to modify %. with some thing large lady that she needs and would sleep with as a alternative!