I don't know if its a sign telling me not to get married, because i am ready or am i just going thru a mini-case of cold feet??? Here's the scoop me and my fiance have been together for awhile...then i broke up with him back in November. Then after new years we made up (he brought up marriage).....im always thinking that he might back out on me...yes i love him and he loves me but i cant get these creepy thoughts out of my head....and he always says he's not leaving me...but i cant help but feel nervous because u see so many people breaking up....it nerve-wracking!! mature advice need only apply thanx!!!!
2007-01-29 02:29:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh I broke it off b/c i didnt realize how time consuming being in the air force was...ya know always at work...i thought he was lying but come to find out he was being truthful and i have decided to stick by him military n all.
2007-01-29 02:39:35 · update #1
we've been engaged since last November but i told u i broke things off b/c i had no clue that military personnel worked long hours @ their base but i have confirmed the info and everything's been all gravy and i appreciate everyone's input!!!
2007-01-29 02:57:15 · update #2
It seems like the classic "cold-feet", however only you know how you truly feel. You do have some time to collect your thoughts and it is never too late to cancel! Why don't you and your fiance take a long weekend away and see how you feel. My best friend got married a couple years ago (we all knew it was a mistake) and she said that when they arrived at their honeymoon, she definitely knew that it was a mistake. I think deep down she always did know it wouldn't work but didn't admit it to us or herself. The moral of the story is, be true to yourself, follow your head, not your heart.
2007-01-29 02:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do not sound like you are ready to get married in July. The fact that you broke up with him sounds like you are unsure. There should be no rush to get married. Were the two of you engaged before November, as if he proposed in the new year it seems quite a rush to be getting married 7 months later - I was glad to have over a year to plan, and wouldn't recommend much less.
OK is your fiance your best friend, is he someone you can see yourself growing old with? Has he ever given you any reason to think that things would end between the two of you?
I hope it all works out. Just do what is best for you.
2007-01-29 10:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by iccleanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone goes through the "cold feet" stage before they get married. It's different for everyone. I got married in Sep. last year, and my relationship with my fiance at the time was wonderful. We hardly ever fought, we respected each other, and got along very well. Even with our strong relationship, I started getting nervous and having doubts. It's because it's such a huge committment. It would be weird if you DIDN'T think twice at some point!
But I also agree with others who have said if there is a big problem in your relationship, or something you really can't stand about him, you should think hard about if you really want to live with it forever. It's true that people do not change. If anything all their little habits get even more annoying! You just have to love them enough and be committed enough to them to stick with it and work through differences. Good luck!
2007-01-29 16:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by heatre24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up? Because (just as a warning) people don't change for the better when you get married, they get worse. And whatever problems you had before are not going to get easier or go away. This is a serious step and you really need to think about it logically before you go through with it.
2007-01-29 10:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insecure in the relationship? If you are having doubts perhaps you should just push the wedding back a few months or at least until you feel "ready" to get married. Remember it costs more to get divorced than it does to marry. You should only marry someone if you love them and trust them whole heartedly.
2007-01-29 10:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think since you explained this honestly that you are really just having the jitters, and not second thoughts. Seems though you better work on your communication skills with him more, though. Don't assume - it never gets one anywhere. Congrats and good luck!
2007-01-29 16:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just think you are nervous. go ahead and marry him. pray about it.
2007-01-29 10:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get married if you have doubts. Thats stupid
2007-01-29 12:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by cds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋