tricks to relax on a date?

Question

I get a little nervous on dates and tend to overthink everything I am saying and it usually turns to alot of akward silences. Is there any tricks or anything I could do to relax and just be comfortable?

Answer 1

......breath, smile, laugh. Listen to her and what she says and play off of that. Ask her questions...while she is busy answering you can silently excercise some relaxing breathing techniques.
Be yourself......she'll pick up on that and relax too.

Answer 2

Before you start the date, prepare an "awkward silence buster" ...really just have a couple of backup questions that you've thought of before hand to get conversation rolling if all else fails...they could be random or serious depending on you and the person your with.

Remember though..its not just your job to keep things rolling smooth.

Also remember that you aren't the only one nervous.

From personal experience, I am seriously a horrid dater! I get so nervous. Then I either go hyper or shy (talk too much or not at all) and have a really hard time eating on a dinner date cause my stomach is all in knots.

You know how guys poke fun at girls for only ordering salad? For me its only because I'm too nervous to eat anything bigger.It takes me at least 2 or 3 dates to feel like my normal self...

Just remember that everything isn't riding on the first date. It doesn't have to be perfect, just good enough to merit a second date. This takes some of the pressure off!

Answer 3

A drink or two or if u dont drink alcohol, just think that the girl in front of you is a guy, except don't talk only about guy things.

Another thing that works is to let her talk, about what she likes, what she thinks about different things, and then try to lead her into telling her about herself and then show interest in whatever she tells. Once she opens up, be a good listener. A good way to break the ice is to tell something personal about yourself, for instance, how painfully annoying your parents are (even if they are not), she will recognise herself in your story and she will agree and fill in, this is a good icebreaker. Just make up a personal story, or tell a real one if you have.

You can also tell the urban legend about the your dog who brought the neighbours dead rabbit in his mouth one day. Have u heard of it? You tought the dog killed the neighbours rabbit. So, terrified that the neighbour will want to see your dog dead, you wash of the rabbit and make it's fur all fluffy with a hairdryer, then at night you sneak it back into the neighbours garden into the cage where the rabbit used to be. Next day your parents come home and tell that they just spoke to the neighbour and someone pulled a sick joke on them. Their rabbit died a few days ago, and they burried it in the backyard, someone dug it up, washed it off and put it back in the cage.

She will laugh hard, and feel a lot of symphati for you, this is definitely an icebreaker. After that it doesn't matter what you say, she will like you.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'd say alcohol isn't the best idea. Usually if you are feeling awkward about what to say, it's usually because you aren't sure what comes to mind is the right thing to say. Beer might relax you, but it won't change your thought process...in a good way. Try chewing gum, stay away from decaffeinated beverages, and try asking questions instead. If you aren't very good at elaborating things, show yourself to be a good listener.

Answer 5

there is no tricks to do, just try to talk about some thing is comen between both of you...tell her funny stuff...share previos event. tell her things you like to do , just when ever you feel there is silence , ask her a question and she will ask you back , and go on...

Answer 6

try having a few drink... that is if drink alcohol.. may loosen you up a bit.. if not then .. laugh!!! tell jokes, ask for jokes, maybe try to bring a dat to a comedy club... laughter will always make you comfortable!!!!> also try to be in a familiar place so that you don't feel so uptight!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Be yourself and focus on your date. Ask about their interests!

Answer 9

always just be yourself...you want them to like you for you and not for tricks you have learned to have conversations. BE YOURSELF!!!!
good luck

Answer 10

deep breath... frequently