Growing up i didnt know her cos i was a result of an affair,it was when dad left that she was told i existed.She never wanted to see me back then,i understood,dad shouldn't of lied to her.Whenever i saw her at dads she was nice to me but kept her distance even with dad but he never noticed.When she was13 she'd to cut herself,nobody noticed & once at dads around xmas she tried to kill herself when he left for an hour,a neighbor helped her & she convinced him that it was an accident and dad never found out.Not long after she stopped coming to see dad & when i saw her around town she seemed happy.A year ago she started coming over again but she soon started looking unhappy.She started cutting herself,i went to her house & found her on the floor,she'd passed out from a panicattack.She went to councelling wen she was 13 but they didnt help her,she came back to see dad to face her problems but that didnt work & shes back where she started,she always seems so lost and i want to help but how?
2007-01-29 02:05:02 · 11 answers · asked by cocoabunny 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
she 16 now and im only 11. all i know about her past is that her gran died when she 10. they were close and she took the death hard she told me that was when her problems started. and dad leaving didnt help. she always thinking of killing herself and i think she hears voices cos she always seems like she hearing things that she doesnt want to. she wont go to the doctor cos she petryfied of them. i dont want to watch her kill herself and everyone say they never saw this coming cos so obvious there something wrong
2007-01-29 02:09:15 · update #1
i p. i cant just stand back cos i know shes not acting out. if i stand back she could kill herself.
2year ago i got ill and she could of just stood back and left me to die but she didnt. she stayed with me everyday and donated her kidney. shes pertryfied of hospitals and she stayed with me until i was let home. so dont tell me to stand back.
2007-01-29 02:59:15 · update #2
ive had to deal with depression, self harm, paranoia and have had panic attacks since i was 11. panic attacks there nothing anyone can do for that exept breathing exercises can help her not faint. for depression there are drugs but not always the best option. you said she went to councelling and tried to confront her problems, well that shows she wanted to help herself and that there is hope that she can be helped. about a year ago my friend told me to keep a diary of my thoughts and feelings and every month i showed her that so she could understand what i was going through. the voices in her head are something that has to be done professionally i tried to get rid of them on my own but no luck. my friend dragged me to the doctors, so talk to her mum or even your mum she may be able to tell your dad and get him to listen. if all else tell a teacher they will be able to help you get help for your sister
i hope you can get help for your sister and she very lucky to have you there for her.
2007-01-29 02:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i just say what a lovely caring little sister you are! She needs alot of help and soon before she does do something bad. You said she wont go the doctors so how about you get the doctors to come to her? She really needs help and to talk about her past so it can help her to move on. Can you tell your dad what she is doing? see if that will help her. Good luck hun xx
2007-01-29 09:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by janine e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My this is a dilemma your sister needs medical help quickly the problems you are describing require professional help before your sister does something more serious , at such a young age my sympathies are with you as this cannot have been easy to deal with please speak to your family doctor and let him know what the symptoms are at the end of the day it will require his say so to start the ball rolling with regards to any treatment or councelling please do this soon.
2007-01-29 02:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by The Guru 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely have to get a responsible parent involved - preferably a parent; if that's not possible is there an aunt or uncle?
Even tell your own teacher and find a way to get her some help.
You are a good sister for being concerned.
2007-01-29 02:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by fcas80 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy being a 'big sister' to an older person when your only 11years old.
You won't like what I am going to tell you, but here goes. You need to look after YOU and it seems your getting along ok.
Your sister will grow up and out of whatever is bothering her. Teens are a testing questioning time and a learning time.
It won't be long before you find yourself out and about, falling in love wondering what ever happened to that 11 year old.
Your sis has to grow up and develop in her own way. You will too, but develop your life for yourself your way.
I hope that helps and gives a little insight in to big sis.
2007-01-29 02:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by jupiteress 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are a very caring little sister.
I agree that getting a parent involved is what you need to do, or any responsible adult that can get her the help she needs. Be honest to them about it as you have been here with us, tell them what you know and that you care about what happens to her. She obviously needs psychiatric care and therapy so she can get well.
My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best in helping your big sister.
2007-01-29 02:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by mandynadeau 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
god i wish i had a sis like u!! ur great- never forget that. i think if u pester her about it, it will drive her to close in on herself, she knows ur there for her but ur so young, u shouldn't have to deal with this.she will know u love her but she's dealing with it in her own way- not a good way at all but its her way. writing helps, keeping a diary of feelings and thoughts- gets all the crap out of ur head. my thoughts are with u both- take care xxx
2007-01-30 22:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by GAYNOR T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, you two are amazing. stick by her, talk to her, if you catch her cutting, stop her--take her razor. talk when she id depressed, even if she doestn talk back, tell her how ou love her, and cant seeing her hurt herself. tell her that if shes not willing to live for her, to live for you, because you would be nothing without her. you two seem liek you can get through this, good luck!!! if you need any help email me. good luck and dont give up!!!! :]
2007-01-29 11:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her help somehow. its great that you care for her and that she was there for you when you were ill. try to talk to her or get your mother or a responsible family member to help if you can.a councellor would be the best if you can find a good one and get her to go.she has a lot to deal with and needs support.
2007-01-29 04:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cynical 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a great caring sister,maybe you could help her and tell her how much you love her and would help her in anyway you can,and that you would go with her for any councilling or to see a doctor.good luck.
2007-01-29 02:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by a.c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋