My girlfriend of ten months just broke up with me. It came out of nowhere. We were talkin about marriage and everyhting, then out of the blue she calls me and tells me she needs some space. She said it was nothing I did wrong and nothing i can really do. She said I've been driving her nuts with money and trust issues, and i found out shes been staying on the couch at the house of a guy we know. Yesterday she came over for a little bit, said she missed me and loved, hugged and kissed me...then hours later she was saying that she doesnt think we will get back together. What happened? and what should I do? Oh, also, we have an apartment together, and now shes saying that she's going to be uncomfortable there since we broke up.
2007-01-29 01:57:00 · 8 answers · asked by ConfusedGuy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her exactly how you feel (i.e., miss her, love her, etc), but then give her space. You just can't MAKE someone stay with you, sad as it is. It IS entirely possible that time and space is all she needs. And if it means that she doesn't come back, then the road to recovery should start as soon as possible for you anyway. Try and learn from it, I guess. Sorry... and good luck.
2007-01-29 02:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a bit scared, but more confused than anything.
To avoid getting your hear broken and egg all of your face, you should back off....let her get her thing together.
Trust me, a confused chick is nothing you want to deal with- trust me. If you "push" her in any way and she eventually comes back to you, she may regret you; saying that you and your feelings influenced her.
Leave her to her decision taking time. Whole 10 months is a stint...its no record, so relax. If she needs space, give her tons of it. If you're driving her nuts, than don't contact her.
Let her see the void of you in her life. That will let her come to the conclusion if she can be with you or not. And when she returns, she'll have herself together, and it will all on her own accord.
Good Luck!
2007-01-29 10:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a few things...
She could want space because she's starting to have feelings for someone else, and doesnt want to cheat on you, or hurt you. And if she finds out they're nothing, she'll come back.
Or does she mean the type of "wants space" where she wants a little more time to herself in the relationship? I've felt that way before, and just asked that we hang out a little less, which doesnt mean that she loves you less. For myself at the time, I just had a lot of stuff to get done, and needed a little more "me" time...not that I wanted to break up with my bf.
When she brings up "trust issues"...did you cheat on her? This could be getting to her if you did, and she might need time to think about if you're really best for her. Because something like that is a very hard emotionally blow.
2007-01-29 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mellissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, sounds as if she is being evasive and manipulative with your emotions. My advice would be for you to let her know that since she appears to be not sure of what it is she wants, then YOU feel it is a good idea to take time apart until she is absolutely certain what it is she wants. Let her know that you are not accepting her playing with your emotions and stand your ground. The rule in this is, Do not reward negative behaviour, if you do reward this type of behaviour and accept it, then for sure it will continue throughout your relationship. People do what works, and if this works for her then she will continue to behave in this way to get your attention and it allows her to play and not look at you with respect. After this my advice to you is to not contact her in any way. Give her the time to digest the reality of what you said to her. In time she will see that you mean what you say and trust me, she will think twice next time she brings up wanting space. By doing this you are letting her know that in no uncertain terms, you will allow anyone let alone her treat you unfairly. You must expect and deserve to be treated as a valuable human being and also treat others with the same respect. Hope I was of help to you..
2007-01-29 10:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like this guy she has been seeing is more than just a mate, she may have feeligns for him which is messing up what she had with you... give her her space and her time, but DO NOT see her... she needs to sort her head out and having you coming back like a willing dog to be kicked will just mess it right up, maybe if she is seeing this other guy she is letting you down gently but also making sure you are still there should things not work out for her!
2007-01-29 10:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by merrpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not looking good mate id say shes met someone else and is trying to let u down gently the guy whos couch she is sleeping on maybe
2007-01-29 10:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a new man and she is still trying to hold on to you because she is used to you. move on and let her move on too. if you try to stay together you will be so miserable. good luck!
2007-01-29 10:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by ilfo59 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she she isn't really ready for a relastionship yet and that's what is holding her back, she is scared of taking that step forword in life
2007-01-29 10:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋