Is it me or some of us (like worker ants/drones)destined to go through life - never having met that special person.
Testosterone fuelled Macho-man answers not required thanks.
2007-01-29 01:51:46 · 34 answers · asked by treving 42 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know - I've gone through life as the knight in shining armor, and the evil knight in burnt and bloodied armor.
I've loved a number of women for years - in many ways I still love them... most are happy, living their lives with others...
Me - never found anyone who really cared about me, everyone was in it for themselves in some way. I suppose even myself - helping others made me feel good - and somehow I guess I knew that they would all leave once they had their self esteem back, knew how to earn money...
I guess some of us are destined to go on alone... help others, and never receive anything in return.
Cie la mor,
-dh
2007-01-29 02:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were created to be social creatures and also to need a mate. Hence the deep ache most of us feel when alone. (This is coming from a single woman by the way.) I think that part of the problem in finding a great mate is that now we have more options for our lives. Long ago more people wound up married because parents arranged marriages. Or because women didn't have many options in life and getting married was priority one, so they often settled for the best available instead of waiting for Mr. Right. The love stories we see on the big screen or in romance novels don't help either. I think they give us a false idea of what love is really like and present expectations that won't be met in real life. Thus, when we meet a great guy, if he doesn't live up to those expectations, we are disappointed and drop him. Or finally in desperation we give up and settle for someone who isn't great. I have stopped watching all romance movies and reading romantic novels. It has helped me gain a more realistic view of romance, love and marriage. In the meanwhile, like you, I am alone - and okay. I've decided to go through my life, enjoying each day and making the most of all I can. If I do marry one day, I want to look back on my single days as well lived. If I never marry, at the end of it all, my life will have been well lived. Good luck finding your wonderful man!
2007-01-29 01:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by sandy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was single for 6 years. Bad relationships and expirences, left me to think there was noone out there for me. But one day I said to myself.. I am constantly searching for this "perfect" person, that I cant seem to find. Everyone that I met or dated casually , were not this perfect romeo that I envisioned. So I said... stop being so critical... people have imperfections. HE might not be tall dark and handsome, but if he treats me well, and loves my children, then I should give it a chance... what have I got to loose... and youknow what... that worked. No longer than 1 month later, I met a man at the DMV , no less.. and still together. for almost 1 year. So it can happen and will... when you stop looking so hard... it will just hit you in the face!
2007-01-29 02:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by c_leoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I lost the love of my life at age 25.
he was my hubby, died of cancer.
thought i would never love again.
started dating again, purely by accident(although you would never understand the circumstances)
I dated him, one guy only, for 2 years, thought that maybe we could make each other happy, didn't work out.
Recent break up.....he was, so Yeah, i feel that empty, never going to find love again feeling.Beginning to think that I had my chance, and god decided that he wanted him more than I needed him.
At this point though, I think I would be happy being alone. I am just so tired of the expectations put upon you by others, can't deal with it anymore.
The only thing I really miss is having someone to hold me, hug me. But everything else, all other voids are filled by other people in my life. My mom and friends to talk to . My child to hug and hold me,as a child does.
If You are meant to be with someone you will be, all I can say........
2007-01-29 02:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
most of us meet that special person when we are teenagers , we then proceed to make complete fools of ourselves for a while before coming to our senses , we then go through life making do wondering if we'll ever feel butterflies in our stomach at the sight of someone and just know they the someone special we have been looking for , eventually we give up and settle down with someone because we like them and find them easy to get on with despite not being the love of your life , years later something will happen , an argument , an accident , or whatever it may be and suddenly we'll realise that we've been searching for something we have already got but were so comfortable in love that we couldn't see it .
2007-01-29 02:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl so of course I believe that there is that special person out there for everyone, but i also believe that you create your own happiness, you may find someone that you would have never expected to be attracted to or even not think of them in that way and have the time of your life, you will know when they arrive and until then have a blast.
2007-01-29 01:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so weird. But I have almost accepted that for some reason God wants me to be alone. Even though all I ever wanted was to have someone to love and be loved back. The one thing I truly wanted out of this life and it has escaped me. I am 43 and haven't been in a relationship in 3 years. I just get the feeling this is my destiny. I figure that special person for me is either already married or already dead!
2007-01-29 02:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Every human heart has this void. No other human being (or even group of humans) is going to fill that void completely, because it's part of life. It's the impulse that makes people turn to God, to spirituality, and to things outside themselves in the search for happiness.
However much you love a spouse or partner they cannot be the centre and pivot of your being. They can love you and relate to you but they can't feel what you feel or think your thoughts with you.
Some people do have trouble meeting the special person who fills their heart with joy...keep trying and ask God to help you.
2007-01-29 02:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain, I had bad luck with women because I was skinny they viewed me as UN-desirable then I got married late in life to a divorcee with 3 kids now I'm in a sex-less marriage with people that just leach off of me. I truly hope that the bad luck stoops for you and you find true happiness it is never too late.
2007-01-29 01:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may feel alone because you havent met anyone but there are many people married with kids who feel the same way you do which is (i think) worse, at least you still have options, I believe you will find someone to love you everyone does eventually, try not to look so hard they could be right in front of you
good luck xx
2007-01-29 01:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋