We fought a lot, and thats why three days ago she quit me. I cannot stop thinking about her. We had more than 1 and a half years together. I will be perfect, how can she give me ONE oportunity?
2007-01-29 01:46:09 · 25 answers · asked by ragour 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the exact position. I want my ex gf back. But the more and more times I think she is kissing another guy kills it off slower and slower each day. It has been a month since we last broke up, and a day later she kissed another guy. Now they have been together a month. Time goes so fast, you gotta ask yourself, where would of you seen you two in 5 years time? Happy? Trust me the fights are not caused by one person, they caused by the couple. Both of you. I know it is about stupid things, it also happened to me, little fights and one day one person cannot handle it and says enough. But as soon as that person says that, a day later you want them back. The pain is heart breaking for the first 2 months. But no contact helps and the less you chase the better you will feel. Dont think about what they doing, esp in the bedroom cause you will shoot yourself in the foot. Rather concentrate on blocking and moving on with what YOU love to do. That is also difficult, but the right one, and when I mean right one, you wont see her now because you are looking at your ex through LOVInG eyes and you are not seeing clearly. Say goodbye in your heart and be prepared to love again. Maybe not right now, but it will come around the corner. Be yourself and do the activities you love then someone will catch you.!
2007-02-01 01:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by stephen b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 03:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that.
But NOT the part about you being perfect. Nobody is perfect.
If you really want her back (and I mean it, dont lie to her), let her know that you love her, and it's a shame to throw away something you've built up over the past year and a half, living without her for a few days has made you realize just how much you truely love her.
Be willing to make some small changes, or try harder. Let her know everyday that you love her, not just in saying it, but showing it too.
Most girls get asked out every now and then (miraculously more when they start dating someone), and it's hard to want to stay with a boyfriend who's not trying when another guy is jumping at the chance to.
I could be completely wrong, and you could be amazing, but not the right guy for her. I dont know, but I'd suggest you tell her you love and care for her, but leave out that "perfect" bit. No one is.
2007-01-29 01:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mellissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, you have to stop thinking about her, and it isn't going to be easy. You have to keep yourself busy, give yourself time to grieve, and then work on improving yourself. Don't call her for at least 2 months. You probably won't want her back in the end, but right now you aren't qualified to make that judgement, and you cannot change the way she feels.
Since you got dumped, your interest in her increased. Hers is right where it was when she dumped you, and if you bug her a lot, it's only going down from where it is now.
Good luck, and try to move on.
2007-01-29 01:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do it and you should not try. The only thing you might accomplish is that you will get her to relent and let you back into her life but it will be a lesser level and it will be temporary. It sounds like you all are in an unhealthy relationship and you are the problem. You won't be perfect, you can't be and that is part of the problem. It does no good to try to change radically for a short period of time until the next flare up. Move on and let her move on.
2007-01-29 01:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tom W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can kiss the ex good-bye. She dumped you finally after 1 1/2 years of arguing. Sounds like she finally had enough and wants someone without all the drama. I would use this as a learning experience. I hope you will find someone who is compatable with you. Good luck.
2007-01-29 01:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really think she's the one, you wouldn't be asking Yahoo! Answers for the answer. And get some self respect. Don't go groveling around begging your ex-gf to come back to you. That means if she does, she's going to have the power of the relationship. Maybe you'll wanna send her flowers to her doorstep first...
2007-01-29 02:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first ask your self if she is the one for u and if she is better off with out you and then figure out how much u really like this girl. how many chances did she give you? may be she needs time away from you, to think were she is going. Trust me she is not the only girl in the world!
2007-01-29 01:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by horsegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but you can't force someone to love you. If she is done with the relationship then you are better off to go your separate way. I know it can hurt, but you don't want her back under those circumstances. You can't be perfect, no one is. Some people aren't meant to be together - it just means there is someone out there that is better for you. Good luck and I know it is painful!
2007-01-29 01:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By giving her her space and focusing on yourself.... I know that's the hardest thing to do but it does work. that way u will give her time to reflect on the problems and of course miss u and give u time to reflect and see what u could do better. Let her miss u and want u and then tell her how u feel and what u've thought about. Good luck! x
2007-01-29 01:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Topsyturvy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋