Potty training help!?

Question

Hey Everyone,

We are trying to potty train our 4 year old girl. She is completely potty trained during the day, but cannot make it through the night without wetting the bed.

We have tried a lot of things. The first one we tried is cutting off fluids after 6:00, but sometimes that's impossible. If we eat late, or is sick, fluids are inevitable. The other thing we tried is waking her up in the middle of the night and making her use the bathroom. However we know this is not going to teach her how to do it herself.

It seems like she's just a deep sleeper and cannot "feel it" while she's sleeping.

Any ideas???

PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

My daughter really responded to the reward and punishment method. I made a chart and let her put the star stickers on herself when she didn't wet the bet and at the end of the week I took her somewhere special she wanted to go. It worked for us. She did not like the alternative, pull-ups. She thought they were for baby's.

Answer 2

Wow, I know all about this - I am going through the same thing with my daughter. She goes to JK in the daytime and stays dry all day but can't make it through the night without wetting the bed. What I've done that I find helpful, other than limiting fluids because that can be very hard, is taking her to pee before I go to bed. I gently wake her up and carry her to the toilet and sit her on it and let her have a pee. Then I put her back to bed and I go to bed. It seems to work really well. I also will use Pull-Ups some nights - if I can anticipate being too tired to do laundry in the morning! I have to put the Pull-Up on her once she's already asleep though because she says they are for 'babies'! She doesn't like them but I'll put one on her once she's already fallen asleep and then when she wakes up in the morning she just takes it off. The funny thing is - she never asks me how it got on her or seems confused by the fact that she's wearing one - she just pulls it off and forgets about it!
I have talked to my pediatrician about it quite a few times and he has reassured me that it is totally normal. All kids will master the skill of bedtime dryness at different times and its not like she can't do it because she's dry all day. When you think about it, the night is a huge stretch of time to stay dry without having a pee. Check out the link at the bottom, hopefully you will find it helpful. Good luck.

Answer 3

Try this: Buy a cute alarm that your daughter picks out with your guidance and set the alarm for a time you think she will be ready to go and before she has an accident. For about three to four nights in a row set an alarm for yourself to get up with her so she starts to associate the alarm with needing to go potty. Of course talk to her to explain what the alarm is for before getting started. The length of time that she should need the alarm is different from child to child. Don't put to much pressure on her and she should do fine. Also, to keep the mess/clean-up down while she is adjusting to this new tactic, buy the kind of pull-ups that allow for a child to feel when they are wet. This worked great with my son. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

Let her outgrow it on her own. You're going to make her a nervous wreck if you keep at her. Her bladder is probably just too tiny to make it thru the night and sleep is more important than not peeing in the middle of the night.

At age 4, she can deal with the consequences of wetting the bed. Give her a choice of wearing pull-ups at night or simply changing a pad on the bed. You can buy pads that she can sleep on and change in the morning all by herself.

There is a homepathic bed-wetting remedy that I used with my younger daughter. I don't know if it worked but it made her feel as though it was something she was dealing with by taking the remedy. It's now 17 years later and her being a bed-wetter seems trivial.
http://www1.shopping.com/xPO-Hyland_s_Bedwetting_Tablets_125_Ea~r-1~CLT-INTR~RFR-www.google.com

Answer 5

my 6 yr old was the same way. Yes she had a small bladder, but she also had a pinch in the urethra tube. Id take her to the doctor and make sure. I would have never known if my aunt didnt tell me that my cousin had the same problem. Now Im making up for all the "trouble" she got into for wetting her bed.

Answer 6

My daughter is nearly 3 and is potty trainned during the day, and most nights is dry but i still put a pull up nappy on her!

My friend had the same problem with her little girl, who was older than both our daughters.

She used to get her daughter up about an hour before she went to bed( i think it used to be about 11.00ish) and put her on the toilet and tell her to do a wee! Her daughter used to go too. my friend would then put her daughter back to bed! and she started to have dry nights/mornings!

I intend to try this method with my daugher soon

Good luck

Answer 7

In time she will be able to make it through the night without wetting. This is something that as she grows will take care of itself in the meantime be positive and encouraging. Also use pull-ups so that if she does wet she isn't messing her whole bed and it will save you doing sheets and blankets.

Answer 8

wet bedding is normal for children of that age even older kids do at times so i would just sugggest helping her clean up and dont make a big deal of it if you make her feel bad this will only get worst

Answer 9

my mother potty trained me by making me go to the bathroom every time she had to go to the bathroom, it worked for my mom maybe it will work for you, my mom told me that after about a week or two i started going to the bathroom on my own and going when i needed to,not when my mom needed to

Answer 10

My newphew was ike this. It's just a small bladder and she will just grow out of it eventually. It's hard and it's not her fault so don't get mad..