Should i marry her or break the relationship?

Question

hi Friends,
I have engaged with a girl before 8 months.
At first meet, i didnt liked her,lookwise and due to her personality.i had also told her.She was well educated same like me and her nature is also very good so i agreed to do engagement by thinking that personality can be change by little efforts.Another thing was we cant find such educated girls in our community.Later She had tried to change her personality but she cant do as i have ever desired for my wife. Now within this 8 months she started to love me and i am at the same place with the thought that i havent found my dream life partner. Now day by day my behavior toward her is being worst.She is tolerating all this but she also seeks me to love her.How can i love her if i cant find my desired life partner in her???? if i marry her i am feeling i have lost something in my life. Should i marry her or break the relationship? Please suggest me. what should i do??

Answer 1

ur not from around here are ya? Ne way dont marry her cuz if she loves you and you cant give her the same then end it now so she can fine her ""Life partner"" she deserves that and it sounds to me thats shes not one of those beautiful people but a beautiful mind and that makes you extremely shallow!!!

Answer 2

Please don't marry her!!! It may hurt her at first, but it would be less painful to break it off now than later. Marriage is hard and take alot of work. A couple should be strong before marriage as marriage will really test the relationship. I would hate to see you get married, start a family and then meet your "desired life partner" and have to destroy your family. You will both be happier in the long run if you part now and find other partners that are more compatible. Remember you can never change a person, they are who they are. You can change some behavior but not their personality. Good luck and I hope you do the right thing!

Answer 3

If you have put this much thought into the question the answer should be apparent. You are not going to change her and why would she want to change? If you don't like her looks or her personality what the hell are you doing with her? Better yet, why is she with you? She should be the one calling things off. If you can't accept the person you are going to marry for who they are then don't get married. All you have in common is an education? You don't even LOVE HER! Don't waste her time -she is better off without you. Break the engagement and never call her again. She is much better off without you.

Answer 4

I understand that English is not your first language. One of your biggest concerns is that there are not many educated girls in your community. That tells me you must not live in a city where there are many educated girls.. Do not marry this girl just because she is educated, and you cannot expect her to change her personality for you. That would be very selfish of you. You need to leave this relationship. If possible, you should relocate to a city where you will find the type of wife you are dreaming of. Don't make a bad choice now that will be with you for the rest of your .life.

Answer 5

If you do not love her then don't marry her. It almost sounds like you're talking about an arranged marriage, and I'm guessing English isn't your first language from the way you write.

I do not know what are "faults" are that you wanted to change, but they sound quite significant if it's something she cannot adjust. It is quite unfair to expect her to change herself, as her characterists are what make her the woman she is. She sounds very tolerant to be coping with the expectation that she should try to be different.

A marriage should be for life, if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with that person you've answered your own question.

Answer 6

Firstly, you certainly don't sound "well educated". You don't sound even a little educated. Secondly, you shouldn't marry someone that you don't love, and you can not make yourself love someone. So before she begins to plan a wedding and waste time and money you should break the relationship. Try being honest with her as to why you do not wish to continue the engagement.

Answer 7

You can not marry someone you do not love! I called off a wedding with someone who I thought I loved, but something in my heart told me he wasn't for me! looking back I'm so glad we ended it.

When you meet 'the one' - you will know! no questions asked. Never live a life ..wondering 'what could have been' live a life of of no regrets.

Save yourselves from the heartache and try and remain friends

hope it works out for you
Summer x

Answer 8

You don't deserve her, She is educated, she loves your undeserving cold heart, and she puts up with you and your cruel rejection and mean words.

Honestly, she deserves better than you. Break up the relationship and find a uneducated low-life just like you to match you. If you are dumb enough not to see the good qualities in a woman, then you have no bussiness marrying a good woman juts to make her suffer.

Good luck

Answer 9

dont ever marry someone you cant seem to love or have feelings for...you will be a very unhappy person for the rest of your life....dont give up on love, there is someone out there for you, you just havent found that person yet, so dont marry this girl

Answer 10

As much as it will hurt u both now, if i were in ur shoes, i would break it off. It will in the best interest of u both. If u are having doubts, dont go thru with it!! U will regret it!! No one can ''change'' to meet the expectations of another, even if she tried to, eventually she would go back to being herself!! If u dont think it will work, tho, save u both from ''later heartaches'' (infidelity,divorce, etc)....