I was told from my company to move to LA. There's a lot more project I could work on, and will have free house and a car.
My bf was devastated, saying "You don't want to be with me, than that's your choice, I can't make your decision". But I wasn't willing to be apart with him. I had long distance in my mind, but for him, he thought going away = willing to be separated.
After our conversation, bf told me how he had plans to start business in Thailand next year...but he had second thoughts cuz I am a city girl and thought he would loose me if he moved.
I want him to know taht he won't loose me, even we will be having miles between. Can I suggest a long distance, or should it come from a man? I have thought about staying, but I can't obtain visa easily without being engaged.
2007-01-29 01:35:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he loves me the first time in the beginning of this month...and I know he does. I know I do too, and it's the first time in my life how I felt. He says I'm the best thing that happened to him in his life... He invited me to his Xmas with parents, and he's comming with me to Japan this April to meet my folks.
2007-01-29 02:01:09 · update #1
you really need to firstly work out how important he is to you ,wether living without him is easy/ hard/ impossible , how compatable you r together ....then find out if you both want the same things from life , if yr answer to these is going in the cant live without him and we want the same things in life then its an easier decision.............if its in the middle its a bit harder .....the other factor is yr priorities is it homelife over job or job over homelife..........good luck and what ever you decide dont feel guilty or full of regrets this is life and one of the downsides of having such a big country.....
2007-01-29 02:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If career is important to you you should follow this direction. Propose long distance, its OK. If he wants to start business in Thailand then maybe he is busy too. Thats fine for long distance.
Only if he and you want to come home to each other will it become a problem. That and also the financial cost of meeting up.
Once a month should not be too hard.
2007-01-29 11:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can work but they take a heck of a lot of effort. Are u willing to be in a realtionship where there is so much love yet very little actual contact?
2007-01-29 17:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a longdistant relationship and we were married girl after awhile we grew apart he started seeing other women there cuz he felt lonely or he didn't have time or money to come see me so we grew to not being together to a divorce and we have been for 9 years and now he's remarried with a son and we can't stand each other it just do not work you become enermies or just can't talk to each other. you two should really sit down and talk about it if it could be worked out .good luck.
2007-01-29 09:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by MsDeelover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it definitely doesnt have to be the man that proposes a long distance relationship. if you want it, suggest it, thats fine! its better than not suggesting it - then hell assume you want to break up, like hes done so far. i think if you want to be together in the long run, you need to assume that eventually youll be living together in the same place again. so if you can see yourself moving back with your boyfrined after youve moved to LA, i would do it - and view it as a temporary thing. if you dont think youll move back together, i dont see how it can work. but if you love eachother, i think you should try to stay together - its a rare beautiful thing worth working on! so keep at it!
2007-01-29 09:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by john9999999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would got on a plane fly to L.A. meet someone new and have a great time with your new live and job. Because girl he is not in love with you nor does he care about it right now...because if he even liked you that way he would have talked about it first before going to the your just leaving card. So I would tell him have a nice life and pack your things and go to L.A. girl. It is a lot more fun in L.A. then staying where you are right now.
2007-01-29 09:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by vblvly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance will not work. I tried twice. No luck. Break up and find someone new in the new town if your bf does not want to move with you. After all, he is only your bf, not your husband or master.
2007-01-29 10:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by chatting_za 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally the success rate is very poor but i cannot deny the fact that some people have succeeded quite well...
so of course u can talk to the guy and see what he thinks and what are his intentions... if both of u can do something to be together in future that would be great as most relationships require that the couple sees each other often... gd luck...
2007-01-29 10:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with you suggesting a long distance relationship at all hun!!!
Bear in mind it will be tough on ye both though so you need to be sure that its what you both want and you'll have to prepare yourself for the hardship of it - but if your love can overcome these then Id say go for it - and best of luck in your new job.
xx
2007-01-29 09:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship can work but it won't be easy. they never are. if you want to maintain the relationship then make the decision together. who suggests what shouldn't matter. just get together brainstorm . and figure it out. compromise . if you can do that you will be fine.
2007-01-29 09:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Gray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋