I have been dating this married guy for over four years.when we met we made it very clear that some day i have to move on meet sombody single and get married. Now, we have been having problems lately resulting in fights and i told this guy i didnt want to have a relationship with him but just be friends. He agreed because he knows he can never make me happy the way i would like. We have been friends but their some habits that he cant stop right away. Ever since i made a decison, i have been doing my own things and its been exciting unlike before because i used to consider his feelings.He still comes home and sometimes he wants to be intimate with me. I now find it very odd because i have fallen out of love with him and i cant tell him straight. His my friend but i wnat him to concentrate on his family too. I met a single guy and were getting off well, now i dont know how to tell my ex to stop visiting me unexpectedly. I dont want to offend him but he has to let me go.
2007-01-29 01:29:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What are you thinking? Do you have any brains at all? Not to be harsh... but you're dating a MARRIED MAN! I don't care how much you "love[d]" him, it's wrong on so many levels. Tell the guy what's up: you can't date him because he's MARRIED. Tell him also to seek a marriage counselor, and to keep his hands off other women!
You, as well, could do with a lesson in morality. How is dating a MARRIED MAN even acceptable? Do you realize the trauma you have caused in his marriage? It may not show up now, but by allowing him to engage in this act of infidelity is going to cause stress in his relationship! Do you realize what you've done?
2007-01-29 01:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by whoops! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. Unfortunatly as much as you want to be friends you are going to have to stop. He isn't your friend if he is preventing you from moving on it to a happy, healthy relationship. He needs to stop coming to your house. Change your locks and don't let him in. When he shows up unexpectedly, tell him it is not a good time and send him home to be with his family. It will be dificult but you can do it. you will be better off in the long run.
2007-01-29 01:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by csouza_79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're nonetheless married era. After 4 years they ought to be divorce and if no longer you ought to ask why. In 4 years they ought to have been waiting to have the money for a divorce. he remains linked to her "he's frightened approximately hurting her and desires to make specific she is okay", evidently like an excuse for him to no longer get right into a relationship lower back. i might say she does not want a divorce and nonetheless thinks there is an risk. as long via fact the as there's no paper asserting it they're nonetheless married, no be counted what he tells you.
2016-09-28 03:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by lachermeier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So after four years you decide to wake up and move on, and he's just expected to do the same? It's not going to be that easy, as your seeing right now. The best advice I can give is be straight up and tell him you don't want to have anything to do with him. Make it clear, and if you have to threaten him with calling his wife, by all means do so.
2007-01-29 01:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have done this this on the first day. It is only end in heart ache for you and his wife. Yes, you seemed to forget about her. He is a lying, cheating SOB, and you are the other woman. You need to break all contact off with him. This means no contact at all. If he calls, you change your phone number. If he stops by, you move. If he calls or stops by your work, you change jobs. He is trying to get your relationship with back the way it was.
2007-01-29 01:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is now going to stalk you but this is a case of "what goes around comes around". You knew he was married and that didn't stop you but now that you want to move on after 4 years of it he feels he has rights to you and won't be that easy to get rid of. You need to let him go completely. no friendship crap. I really don't know how either one of you have been looking in the mirror these 4 years without any shame. He is going to ruin your relationship with this new guy and it's going to be payback.
2007-01-29 01:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kindest thing that you can do is to tell him. It sounds like you're ready to move on. I would suggest that you tell him that you aren't comfortable with his visits any more. Tell him that you want time to yourself.
I also don't recommend that you stay friends with him. Obviously he doesn't understand the idea. If he still wants to be intimate, he is still hanging on and seeing it as a relationship. It's best to get away from him.
2007-01-29 01:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. Don't worry about what "offends" him or not. It's a part of life. People get dumped! Probably best to cut him off completely. Besides, after cheating on his wife for 4 years, he deserves to have his heart broken by you. And you should be ashamed of yourself.
2007-01-29 01:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him to stop coming over , that you have moved on. If he doesn't tell him that you'd get police order to make him stay away from you and that his wife will find out that way.
2007-01-29 01:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by DaintyCutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to call his wife. Works every time.
2007-01-29 01:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋