break up? or don't break up?

Question

ok so my boy friend and I have been together for about 5 months but I'm not allowed to have a boy friend till I'm 16 so I hid it from my mom for about 2 months. then she found out but didn't tell my dad. so a few days ago my boy friend came over but my mom came home early and i got caught. my mom doesn't exactly trust me any more and I've been lieing to my dad for 5 months (I'm really close to my family so this whole situation is really bothering me) so the ultimate question is.....should I break up with him and wait till I'm 16 or stay with him since my mom already knows we're together????????

btw i'm 15 so yea

Answer 1

um... well... who comes first? family or your bf? you'll prolly have more in your life so do what's best for you now.
if he really, truely likes you, then he can wait... and then, if he really doesn't like you, then he'll just leave. your parents will love you no matter what you do. :]

Answer 2

I am going to go out on a limb and assume that you are LDS, forgive me if I am wrong, but I am aswell and the 16, close family, killing you to lie-kinda tipped me off. I am off at college now, but I have been in a very similar situation. When I was 14 I like this guy alot...when I turned 15, we started dating and hid it from our families. At 16, we were still dating and because we hid it from our families, his parents hated me, my parents hated me. We continued dating when we hit seventeen, kissed for the first time, and all was wonderful, but to be completely honest, in all that time we started getting a little bit too comfortable and it started getting incredibly difficult to keep our standards. We ended up going to the same college, and about 3 days after school started, he broke up with me. We made some mistakes, not huge ones, nothing uber serious, but they were big enough to make me regret listening to my parents and church. Its hard at you age, I remember, and I am not going to say that you should definately break up with him, especially since I don't even know that you are mormon and even if you are it would be hipocritical of me, but just know that I lived once where you are, and I got hurt, almost irreperably hurt. Be careful, this boy won't be there forever, but your mom, and her trust, and you dad who is only concerned for your well being will be there forever. Keep their relationship close at all costs, its the most important until you are older and thinking of marriage. And if this boy really cares for you, he will understand when you tell him that you want to keep your standards and wait till 16. You can do it, I promise, and it will make your future so much easier. Good luck, and I am sure you will make the right choice or you wouldn't be asking the question. God bless!

Answer 3

Well sweetheart...... first.....How can you have a good meaning full relationship if it is based on lies and sneaking around secondly.....Your parents have always been there and will always be there through many relationships,you may not believe this now but there will be alto more boys and are you sure you want to destroy you trust with your dad over this boy?Will he ALWAYS be there like your dad?I dint agree with your mom letting you see him without dads permission but what is done is done You do not say how old you are but I am guessing close to 16 so what harm will it be to wait a little while and be able to have a boyfriend out in the open with consent? If dad catches you and he will when you do turn 16 he will not want you to date this boy or any boy cause you cant be trusted....So sweetie I say forget about a boyfriend for now concentrate on school......I will tell you what I tell my kids....YOU can spend the next few years working hard to get a degree and getting your life in order and have 60 to 70 years of a comfortable life or You can have fun for the next few years and goof off with boys/friends who will not be there in 20 years when you have 4 kids and a minimum wage job and struggling to keep the lights on each month

Answer 4

You have made 2 mistakes, telling lies to your family and sneaking a boy into your parents home without their permission. You don't have to break up, but he should have respected your home rules. Everyone will have an opinion about your first romance but do you think about if you were a parent, what problems could occur if your child was not ready. Boys like respectable girls, the ones that are too easy are notches for the wolves, nothing else. We tell each other about the girls we want to marry and the ones that are easy. Watch your reputation, look at what Miss America is going through..

Answer 5

hmm.. i would suggest that you tell your parents now though and see what is the best solution because although you have hid from ur dad 4 5 months and your mum has already known abt ur relationship but then u have proven not trustworthy by allowing your boyfriend to go up to your room. and can u imagine the hurt of being lied to when ur dad finally found out from someone else instead of you yourself. therefore i suggest to be truthful and prove yourself trustworthy to ur parents

Answer 6

I would sit down with both my parents and talk about the situation. This way maybe you'll be able to regain some trust from then since you haven't been truly honest. Maybe they'll decide that you can see this guy or maybe they won't, despite their decision, I think you should respect it. They know what's best you, and they love you the most. Don't jeapordize your relationship with your parents over this guy, it's not worth it.

Answer 7

how old are you now??

in afew years you will look back and laugh, its all part of growing up and relationships... trust me, even after 16 they have their complications!!

i would say, if you were my friend, to wait, get your education sorted first before worrying about the boys, because a good job at the end of the education will enable you to meet a whole new set of friends and boys.. opens up a whole new world and you then look back and ask yourself why did i stress over something so small back then!!

Answer 8

It is not his fault that your not aloud to date and 5 months in your going to dump him for nothing? Thats not really fair for one..for two you have kept it going for five months why stop now makes no sense..i understand that your 15 i have a 13 yr old son and if he was in your shoes i would say well it has already been 5 months no point in stopping now just take it slow and be safe.

Answer 9

if u r that close 2 ur family and u want Trust - then talk 2 both of them.
If this guy really likes u then he'll wait & he'll appreciate the honesty
because sure if u lie 2 them will u lie 2 him???

Answer 10

If your family is that close then I would sit down and talk to your dad about it with your mom(talk to her about it first) and just tell your dad that you are feeling realy bad because you have been doing something he asked you not to and its really upsetting you. Would he talk to you without getting mad and when you do, tell him how much you care about your b/f and just ask you dad if its ok if you still date? and if he does there will probably be rules about it and tell him that you expect that he will have rules but you really care about him and love you dad and mom so much but you don't want to hide anything from them because they are important to you. Take care Heather

Answer 11

girl if i was you i would wait till you are at least 16 plz i know what you are going though and its not worth it you are too young to even be thinkin about boyz plz just focus on school i am only 17 but i have been though alot more than you think...