2007-01-29 01:22:44 · 13 answers · asked by marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because im dating this guy really far away and i really love him and he said we'lll be togethor soon but everyones telling me im crazy we've been togethor for about 7 months :P
2007-01-29 01:27:04 · update #1
It's not bad. I've known my fiance for 7 years and we'll have been together for 4 years on February 2nd ^_^. And we live in totally different countries, 4 thousand miles away from each other. It's hard as hell sometimes, but it's not hard to stay together. It's just hard to be apart. It takes a very strong person both mentally and emotionally to be in a long distance relationship, and I wish you luck.
To those people who think that they'd just cheat on someone while not with their partner, those people don't really deserve to be in relationships as it is, and I'm sure they'd cheat on even someone that lived down the block from them. I get to see my fiance once a year, and I have NEVER cheated on him or even been tempted to. And my life is never on hold. Everything I do, I do so we can someday be together. I go to college, and I work, and I this fall I'll hopefully be moving in with him. So see? Even something long distance can be wonderful as long as you're willing to see it through.
2007-01-29 01:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bad thing is that you will only know about the person what they want to tell you, and vice-versa. When you meet you may find out there is a lot to learn about the person that your assumed you already knew about.
Besides that, it is just a human being, just like someone you could have met at a bar of at the supermarket.
I have had a bad relationship which has started and developed as a long distance thing. When we lived together it was not as good as we had imagined all the time we talked through distance.
if I could chose, I would now want to have something more conventional. On the other hand, I live in Brazil, and here women dont have many choices, as the surplus of females is heavy. So guess what? I am starting a new long distance thing! This time I will just keep on mind to be more careful, and to remember it is going to be the face to face time spent together which will really get me to know the person. Nonetheless, I am positive it can work. About my bad experience, I could have a bad relationship with a guy I had met at the supermarket around the corner, right? :-)
2007-01-29 09:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Graça 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships do not have to be bad. I have had a few. The one didn't work out because the guy ended up married to another woman. We have known each other for years as friends. He and the woman are now divorced and I am now married to someone else. The man that I am now married to drove to Georgia from Ohio to see me. We had already known each other when we were teenagers. We hadn't seen each other for 34 years and we are now married. Some long distance relationships can work out but there are some that don't.
2007-01-29 09:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know your case is different, but does my case would make your friends say i am crazy too. I met a guy abotu 10 month ago and 6 month out of them i've been in Iraq (military puposes) and we are very close even though distance is there and he cant come visit me and i can come visit him only for 2 weeks in my whole year deployment. Imagine how i and he feels. But you know i am a believer and if you love your man then be a believer too. Dont listen to you jealous friends, they too immature that love is bejond race, nationality, religeon, distance and time......if you trully love each other...your love with grow very pure and strong. And once you are together face to face you will know how it is to be far apart and you will know how to cherish time together on noones level and definitely not on the level your friends ever experienced. I am happy for you. Good question! Good luck to both of you.
2007-01-29 09:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not bad, they just require some things that most people are not willing to put into a relationship - trust, honestly & faithfulness. It requires good communication skills and alot of hard work to keep a relationship going over distance. But it can be done and if your guy is worth it, tell all your friends to back off.
2007-01-29 09:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth should they be bad.??
They're more difficult to sustain but if the relationship is,in itself good then it'll work out.
I commuted from London to Dublin every week for eighteen months before finally marrying my Irish girlfriend.
We've now been married for 20 years and have 2 grown up boys.
Whoever decreed that the love of your life was going to live next door?
2007-01-29 09:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by bearbrain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not a real relationship. When you see each other you are on your best behavior and ready for nothing but fun. Nice in it's way.
But you spend most of your time lonely. Your life on hold. Then you move closer to the person and real life sets in and it isn't as perfect as you thought.
2007-01-29 09:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
theres nothing wrong with long distance relationships, as long as ur commited and can compromise. i've been in a long distant realtionship for a lil over a year now and it's worked fine. as long as theres trust and good communication theres shud be no problems in ur relationship :-)
2007-01-29 09:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll.... imgaine the torture of not being able to see your loved one everyday. and you can like only see him once a month? or some even worst. i once tried a long distance relationship. it wasn't successful and i ended up with a broken heart :)
2007-01-29 09:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by apple-licious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different, so it may work just as fine to you as any other non ldr, as long as you'd get together at some point.
2007-01-29 09:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by DaintyCutie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋