i got rejected a few months ago and i'm still not over it---it's getting worse and worse.?

Question

please give me advice---i tried EVERYTHING, like seeing the true person inside that body...but i see him 2 hours a day and we don't speak anymore since my friend told him i like him...

i'm just so not over him and it breaks my heart to remember when we used to have good times.

plus there's thin cool girl who he's GOOD friends with even though they're still not going out...they're just friends.

i'm reallly sad and it's impossibe to move on.

Answer 1

You poor thing... Sounds like he's just not ready yet, could be that deep inside he is just too shy to say anything to you now that he knows you like him. Be patient and move on, your wasting precious time that could be spent having fun.

Answer 2

when I have been hurt in the past, I was always the type who needed to get over someone before I could date another, never one to just be with someone to be there, sounds like your the same. this is a good trait in the way that you can handle being alone. don't take this thing too personally, he is immature if he can't handle talking to you just because of a little embarrassment. what I always did was make myself a mix cd (or tape back then) of songs which some made me cry and some were empowering. it helped me face things and then move on. some suggestions:

No More Drama...Mary J Blige
Shut Up and Drive...Chely Wright
Just Breathe...Anna Nalick
Bad Day...Daniel Powter
Leave the Pieces...the Wreckers
Long Long Time...Linda Rodstadt or Mindy Mc Cready
Can't Hold Us Down...Christina Aguilera
Help Me Understand...Trace Adkins
Since You've Been Gone...Kelly Clarkson
What Hurts the Most...Rascall Flatts
Move Along...All American Rejects

good luck, even the worst pain heals with time

Answer 3

Break the ice. Tell him its cool that he wasn't interested in you that way, but you miss your friendship. Not all "perfect matches" are that and you may have come to find out that he's right--and you folks aren't right for each other. That is no reason to not talk any more, and that really is kind of silly. Obviously, you still like him that way--which is something you're going to have to work on. There are a lot of other people in the world, as you know, and a ton of them will get along with you great in that department. Why waste your time on someone who doesn't want that kind of relationship?

Answer 4

Kudos to you. It sounds like you have been making a effort in moving on. These things do take time, some times months, hours, or years. It varies for every situation.

I feel bad for you as your friend wasn't a very good friend by telling him there is still feelings. It put YOU in a ackward situation.

I advise to continue going to different events, dances, games etc where your ex is NOT going to be at. As you meet new friends, (new guy friends) etc. you will soon not even notice the ex if and when you do run into him.

Hang in there!

Things do get better. I promise!

Answer 5

I totally know how you feel :( I went out with a girl for 18 months and since I left for college we split "for now" (in her words). I can't get over it. I think about her all the time and it really dose bother me. I always wonder what she's up to and wonder why she gave up on this thing. TRUST me you're not alone in your thoughts. Rejection kills. I know you still like him but for now you need to move on. No one wants a "clingy" girl, so you need to move on and show him and more importantly your self that your happiness does not depend on one person in the world. I know it'll be hard as F***K...I'm going through the exact same thing right now. It'll take time. Just give it time and keep yourself busy. You have to except that there is someone out there maybe not him but there is someone out there for you. Good Luck and I know you can do this :)

Answer 6

hi
first of all i would suggest ,dont feel sad ,i know it is easy to say but i would appreciate if u could give thought to what i say,
i feel you are still very young to feel so upset because of a single rejection ,i mean if you are really in love with that guy then i guess he will definitely feel the warmth of YOUR love and if still he doesnt return i must say he never deserved your true love ,dont worry honey this IS not the end you have just begun the jorney ,have faith in GOD ,he will definitely send the right one for ya ,and try to get your self involved in some activities like dancin,music or any other hobby u have ,so that u dont think too much about the guy
have faith
GOD BLESS

Answer 7

You have to get out of that mind frame there are other fish in the sea. Show you can do the same thing he's doing i'm sure there's a guy for you whereever you are.

Answer 8

C' mon crazy, you don't love him you love what you wanted to have with him but didn't, move on, it will be okay. Every time you start to think about it, just stop and say it was not what I wanted, then do something else...good luck,,,there are a zillion fish in the sea...move on.

Answer 9

I'm sorry that your heart is broken...and that he apparently wasn't as good as a friend as he originally seemed to be.

Be true to yourself. He has given you indication that he isn't interested, obviously. I know that its difficult to move on, but you must find something else to keep yourself busy and look elsewhere for companionship...you will find it and you will find a wonderful person who thinks that you are just as wonderful.

Answer 10

Ignore him in the hallways, have him bite the dust! go to school tommorrow wearing a really sexy outfit and talk to the rest of your friends as if that ONE guy didnt matter....why? because guys always want the one thing they cant have...and if he feels like WHOA WAIT, SHE'S NOT TALKING TO ME..WAIT WHY!!?
then he will be coming around in no timeee ;) trust me hun.

also, remember, that your young...plenty of fish in the sea and more friends than you can handle...good luck babe!