I been with my bf for about 12 month and we argue all the time about stupid stuff and when it comes to break up I will say OK we need to do something about this it is not going anywhere and he will say the same think and when I say we should break up he will say is that really what u want and I ask him what about and he will say: NO BUT IF THAT IS WHAT U WANT AND WE END UP MEAKING OUT. I love him so much I don’t know what to do and all we do is argue right know. And plus he start saying that I have change for u I have been fitful to u he never cheat on me but he said that he used to cheat on his other xgfs. He will say u should be thankful for not cheating on u all the time I mean I DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW TO really talk to him I need help please guys help me
2007-01-29 01:04:21 · 5 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately without the knowledge and skills it takes to make a relationship work, the efforts you both have put into it will most likely end in failure. This is frustrating for the both of you I am sure. Sometimes couple's counselling could be beneficial. Know that, even when two people love each other, without being able to resolve conflict in a positive way can lead to heartache. Here is some important facts which hopefully will help you both; the number one thing all humans WANT is Acceptance, the number one thing all humans FEAR is Rejection. Keeping both of these concept in mind can help make a person understand more of the feelings behind our negative or positive behaviours. In other words, if you make a person feel not accepted it will create a fear of feeling rejected. The way we relay our words, without knowing can cause inner turmoil and conflict that has nothing to do with even the issues at hand but with Fear. Think about this, and hopefully this will help you when communicating with your boyfriend. Best of luck!
2007-01-29 01:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you mean by fitful, but, if both of you are arguing all the time, and then making out, this is the basis of the relationship, when fighting is involved with a relationship, it usually escalates and one of you will end up being hurt bad. Right now your getting something out of this relationship and it's not love, your bf is re-enforcing the low self-esteem you have. The best thing for you to do is get some counseling, and if you can get your bf to come along it would be great, because he stays in the relationship, means that he's getting something from this relationship besides sex, a feeling of power over you, he recognizes that you have low self-esteem, and this is what fuels his behavior toward you.
2007-01-29 09:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, does this sound like you're in a healthy relationship? You two might be better off moving on. Seriously.
2007-01-29 09:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow is that his way of saying i love you? by saying 'be thankful for not cheating on you all the time'? interesting, i say just end it or seriously, have time apart, SERIOUSLY!.. if he has to say those kinds of things to you when it's not necessary then it's time to move on and be with someone who will appreciate you.
2007-01-29 09:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by T-NEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be having fits, its hard to say. Was he ever convulsing, foaming and the mouth and peeing his pants?
2007-01-29 09:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ben Dover - Contributor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋