i fell in love w/ my guy friend (ive been friends w/ him since 2002) just lately..i guess hes just really deeply patient with me, sometimes i feel embarassed and childish whenever i go yapping about my issues.
but the thing is its been only online. okay webcams and all, and we do send cards and candy whenever theres an occassion. but some people say that i can never be sure since i havent met him in person. but we've been chatting and webcamming since 2002, isnt that enough to know a person enough? what more can he hide. the digital camera still shots have been awfully honest enough to show every freckle and hairy forearms.
i have friends tell me that i'll be celibate, totally celibate, if i keep this up.
2007-01-29 01:00:22 · 9 answers · asked by happybeanstalk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Certainly your age is a factor .... but if you are webcaming and what you do on these is your biz... but you can become intimate with one another in ways that are anything but celibate. So that is silly ..... still if you are going to have a REAL relationship. It is time to be less patient with each other ....some honest questions need to be asked, by both of you. Like how much do you care and how much of yourself are you willing to invest in one another ...Perhaps this is all he wants to give to you. best to find out now. If not then challenge him to come and meet you and your parents. If you are old enough to sign a contract and drive a car... and well I hope over 18 then ... it should work out fine. But if not then ...keep it in cyberville till you finish school and maybe even college. No rush on this....if it is real it will wait..if not ... it won't matter.
2007-01-29 15:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love with a fantasy. Every time a person talks on line that person is not really him/herself. On line we can be as out going as we wish. We speak in ways we never do on line. Shyness dissappears on line. Looks and dress on a small camera is totally different than in person. We can lie up a storm without anyone knowing because you are not across the table from each other.
I once observed a young kid (probably 13) at the local library chatting on Yahoo playing like he was 19 and the person on the other end didnt know it. Secrets on line...things you dont know without meeting in person.
Before you say you are in love with him you had better meet him and really get to know the REAL person not the fantasy.
2007-01-29 01:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After almost 5 years, it's pretty safe to say you know him, but how can you have a relationship online only? Why have you never met yet? You may know all of his flaws and whatnot, but it's still kind of hard to tell if you have real chemistry until you meet. I'm not sure why, but being in person can be totally different than being on line. I guess online, it's too easy to put your spin on their personality.
2007-01-29 01:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the main problem with your relationship is not knowing how he is on a constant basis. he/she can be really nice during the time they're on cam, but until you spend constant time with them in person you don't really know them. even meeting him is person isn't foolproof. my wife's best friend met someone in a chatroom-talked for about 8 months-talked on phone for about 6 months-visited each other 4 times-got married-she's never said, but I don't know if she would have done it if she knew him better.
2007-01-29 01:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by dulcrayon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good to have lots of friends.. but i feel thata you cant truely know someone online..sure you see pics and stuff but that is nothing like the real thing.. who cares about the sexual stuff thats a whole different issue.. but if you wanna be friends with the guy go ahead.. but definatly rethink the love thing.
2007-01-29 01:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by bajajunglemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with holding off on sex.
That said, know this is an initial infatuation and not real love...nothing wrong with that either.
Bottom line, you really should be out meeting real people.
2007-01-29 01:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go meet him, find out cos theres no point complainin if u dont nothins gonna change is it
2007-01-29 01:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by purple_ronnie_always 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that these aren't really "relationships" and very rarely work out.
2007-01-29 01:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
INSIST on meeting him face to face...and it's ok to be inlove with him.
2007-01-29 01:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋