My boyfriend and I went to the Hard Rock Casino to gamble one Sunday afternoon (texas hold 'em). I won $40 and he lost $20. He was irrated at me and called me selfish for not sharing with him to at least make him break even. Before making your decision, here's a a bit of background info: he's still in school(was at that time), with no job- therefore no money. I have been working for 2 years and pay for us often (but not always) That Friday night I took him out and paid for all of our drinks and dinner. I took him to breakfast and lunch on Saturday. All in all over the weekend I spent $170 bucks on drinks/food for us. So that Sunday, when we went to gamble, I looked at my winnings as Great!-- A little bit back on what I already spent this weekend! I had no problem taking him out, but was still excited to get a little bit back. I was totally taken aback when he insulted me about it, and we got in a huge fight! What do you think? Should I have shared and why?! Thanks :)
2007-01-29 00:56:14 · 10 answers · asked by love this site! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He did end up apologizing for calling me selfish, but not for thinking I should have shared. He still does think I should have. I do absolutely believe there are the underlying insecurity issues (to Helen).
2007-01-29 01:21:19 · update #1
there has to be some underlying issues here that are surfacing the wrong way and even more so, being held in by him and coming up at the wrong time! communication is a big one, but hard in alot of circumstances. Maybe there is a feeling of failure for him, or some insecurities and unresolved issues for him - financial pressure and for him being "the man" and having to provide and not being able to is something he needs to look at. He should not call you selfish for that. Share..... dont even worry about that part, talk to him, let him know that you dont think he is a failure, some men worry about this no matter what alot of women say or do. Also keep in mind, that his is something that really, he needs to deal with if its an on-going issue, and only he can change.... your his girlfriend, not his mum, its good to help and be supportive but he has to do that hard yards. good luck :)
2007-01-29 01:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Helen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Somebody is being petty here. Seems like quite the blow up over 20 bucks.
From your side of the story, it certainly seems like you have been more than generous on the food thing.
Who covered the rest of the expenses or were those split? Travel, hotel, entertainment, etc.? It is probably too late now but for $20 you could have saved yourself this aggrevation. Seems like a cheap investment in the relationship from this outsider.
I do agree with an earlier poster that there must be more to this.
2007-01-29 01:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by I know for sure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On d one hand, he could say love is all about sharing but a sharing done without a willing disposition is no longer love. But on d other hand, if u give in to dis {childish and chauvinistic} demand, then dere just might be issues later on in d relationship. Cos' d question is, if he was in ur shoes, would he do same? Take care and think well before u take any rash decisions.
2007-01-29 01:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by krayzieclinton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no question of sharing unless u have agreed from before what u r going to do if u win or loose both ways .
there is no obligation from ur side to help him out if he looses. besides u have already spent a fortune on him already
2007-01-29 01:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by sas35353535 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no b/c u took him out and spent ur money therefore he isn't intitled to a thing. He should't of gotten mad about that. After all if he had been the one who took u out and spent his own money and if he had of won some back he wouldn't of expected u to of gotten mad about it. So yah u were right.
2007-01-29 01:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely nothing wrong. He's being ungrateful and childish. Time for a new boyfriend, someone who will do all the treating !!
2007-01-29 01:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Duckjuice3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt share because you won the money. and you had taken him out and paid for everything the night before.
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2016-11-28 02:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by riddle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you're right. He'd better stop being irrational this way!
By the way, this kind of person can't be a good bf.
2007-01-29 01:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't share it, and I think he is selfish for even asking you to do so. I would say..."I'm right, you're wrong, period the end!"
2007-01-29 01:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋