Bridesmaid Question (repost with less confusion hopefully!)?

Question

I want to have an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. My fiance is set on having 6 (ages 16-30); I currently only have 5.

My options are
1. picking between 2 close friends (I really dont want to do this)
2. asking my cousin (age 8) to be a junior bridesmaid, which would make my father very happy
3. having uneven groomsmen & bridesmaids (I really dont want to do this because I want groomsmen to escort bridesmaids down the aisle)

If I ask my cousin to be a junior bridesmaid, who would she walk down the aisle with?
the youngest groomsman who is 16 but rather shy?; or my brother who is 6'4, but related?

Would it be weird to have such a young girl (who is gorgeous and very mature for her age, but still only 5 foot tall) among such grown adults?

what should I do?
Thanks!

Answer 1

I understand you not wanting to pick between two friends.

It doesn't matter who you send your cousin down the aisle with - just do whatever you think will be the most comfortable for people.

Won't be weird unless you think it's weird.

Everytime you start think about what is "right" or "wrong" about your wedding day go back to what you know (or I hope you know) In your heart... Your wedding day is a day of celebrating the love and the life long union between you and your groom. Now does height or who walks down the aisle with whom really matter? I think not.

Answer 2

Well, I hesitate to think that having the eight year old as a junior bridesmaid is a good idea. Eight seems a little bit too young.

Choosing between two friends can be difficult, and it's hard to avoid hurt feelings in that situation.

If you want groomsmen to escort broidesmaids down the aisle, you could go with asking both of your friends and having one groomsmen escort the two women down the isle. They could each go on one arm and be the last to walk down. I've seen this done in several weddings and it did not look odd or strange at all. I thought it worked out well.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

you are the bride, its your day and you can do it however you want. however it does work better if you have equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
having a junior bridesmaid is an excellent idea. she is the perfect age for that position and would, [in our end of the world], be the first down the aisle, and back up the aisle and would have the youngest groomsman walk with her which would solve your little problem.
good luck

Answer 4

hmmmm, well i've seen junior bridesmaids before, but usually they walk with someone their own age. In my aunts case, the 7 year old walked with a 10 year old who was also in the wedding. I'd go with whatever is going to make you feel the best on that day. After all, it is YOUR day, and all about you. Don't do anything to please anyone else, just make yourself happy. It all comes down to who you want up at that alter with you...who you can count on to help you out if you need it at the last minute. The last thing you want is to "babysit" an 8 year old before the ceremony. Also, think about the wedding party dynamic--how will everyone interact? are you getting a trolly? limo? will there be drinking? Will the dynamic change if you add this little girl to the wedding party? also, perhaps think about having someone from his side of the family as a bridesmaid. if you keep it strictly family, then friends won't be offended

Answer 5

I think its a great idea to have your cousin. I was in my cousins wedding as a junior bridesmaid and she put me with one of my other cousins who was much older than me. It was such a grea ttime. I totally agree with you on having equal groomsmen and bridesmaids but one of mine showed up late and my brother ended up escorting two bridesmaids down the aisle and it was actually really funny and cute! Good luck!

Answer 6

I think have your cousin, but just have her walk out with the shortest or youngest groomsman so it doesn't look as wierd. and if she's 5 ft tall, then it prolly won't make that big of a difference, lord im 5'4" and 21, so she should blend in ok! Ussually the Jr. Bridesmaid is the one kind of on the end, so I say just make your shortest groomsman be on the end and roll with it that way, or you could just have one of your bridesmaids go out with a groomsman on each side, no biggy. 4 bridesmaids, he has 4 groomsmen, but then I have 3 jr. bridesmaids who just won't walk out wiht anyone cuz they are all yong and short, plus he didn't know any younger guys, so like I said they will just be by themselves, and its gonna be just fine!

Answer 7

option #2 wouldn't be all that great because she is just a child, not even a pre-teen unless she's walking down the aisle w/someone closer to her age...

option #3 don't even think about having an uneven #...

option #1 would be the best cause what u could do is be creative.. allow one to walk down the aisle w/the other groomsmen and have the other friend participate in another way.. do u have ur matron of honer yet? cause the other friend could be it, or she could be ur right hand girl to plan the wedding...

Answer 8

I did the Junior Bridesmaid for my wedding to make it an even number. It isn't weird at all, especially if it's correctly stated in the program. She should walk down by herself after the flower girls/ring bearers but before the rest of the bridesmaids. I hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 9

I have a girl in my bridal party that is 13 years old, and I am having her walk down with my nephew who is 9 years old. What I did is I tried to match the heights of each person up, so that the people won't feel weird walking down the aisle with someone who is 1-2 feet taller then then. Also when you get your pctures done, everything will look a bit more proportional. So if you were to choose your cousin, then I would have her walk down the aisle with your youngest groomsman.

And don't worry about it. My 9 year old nephew is going to be amoung all grown adults, and he isn't worried one bit. He can't wait to be a junor usher in my wedding. Also another thing is, talk to your cousin and ask how she feels about being in the wedding party, and tell her whom she will be walking down the aisle with, and also explain that there will be moslty adults in the wedding party. Don't force her to do something that she doesn't want to do. If she says yes, then you have nothing to worry about. And have fun. I have, my nephew has helped me out SO much.......and surprisenly, with his young attitude around, he was kept my nerves down. So good luck!!!

Answer 10

well
if the 2 friends are so close how come they arent already a part of the wedding party
if it isnt so much they are close to you but you feel in choosing a bridesmaid the 2 of them would be equally considered because they are each on about the same level with you in a friendship.............
then i would probably pick the cousin
and i would have her walk with whomever isnt already matched up
dont you already have some of your other groomsmen and maids paired up?
process of elimination
thats what i would do
good luck