He told me she only calls him to tell him she found some of his stuff, but here lately that she hasn't called. For some reason though I don't believe him. I think that they call each other. He says no matter what he does she is going to call him that she didnt care wether or not he was with me, But dont you think he should care that he is with me? And its bugging the heck out of me, to me exes are the past and that's where they should stay! I find it funny she only seems to call when im not around (mmmhmm), Should I keep putting up with it, should I say something to her? I don't know what else I should say to him, cause I feel he is lying to me. I really care about him, and I dont know what to lose him . Some other things on his myspace, she leaves comments talking about the sex they have had and on tables and all that he says she can say what she wants cause its the past but I feel like she was throwing it in my face, what would you do?
2007-01-29 00:49:26 · 10 answers · asked by Amber Vance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he isn't over her and she's not over him, and you're wasting your time with him. People seem to think that just because THEY care for someone they should have the feeling returned. It is obvious it isn't here.
2007-01-29 00:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by poseidenneptune 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he isn't taking into account how much this bothers you - and that makes him the problem, not her.
She can call him all she likes - it's his decision to accept the call and stay in contact with her, and it seems he has made that decision. I don't think you have any right to address her directly - and I think this will make him more angry than it's worth... but you do need to ask him where his loyalties lie.
See if he can answer some of these questions, and hopefully you'll be able to come to some sort of agreement. Why does he still take her calls? What sort of friendship do they have now, and why? Does he still have feelings for her, and what are her feelings for him? Why doesn't he care about your opinion? What are his thoughts for your future?
She's trying to rile you up - that's very clear, and you just need to rise above it: she will get bored of it once she realizes she's gaining no reaction from you. This will speed up if he agrees to have nothing to do with her - hopefully she turn her attention fully elsewhere.
Good luck!!
2007-01-29 00:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. You're giving her power by spending this much energy on "what-if?". Trust him until you have definitive proof that he has lied - and then cut him off completely. She may be trying to come between you with her online comments - I think it shows a lack of class. Smile and know that you're already the better person. Let him know that you don't like the contact she has made - and leave it at that. If he doesn't abide - he doesn't respect you. That's when you move on to someone who CHERISHES you.
2007-01-29 01:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to leave him b/c obviously he is talking to her and lieing to u. What happends in the past should stay in the past and I don't think he wants to give her up yet. He could be still having sex with her behind ur back so yah u need to leave him and the sooner the better.
2007-01-29 00:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl let him know how it is buggin you and just move on from there because you can't controll jealous exes they always want to be around just in case you fall weak to her callings what they had is over so alow that to play more in your mind if you really want to stay go ahead stay but put your feelings on the line concerning that issue and just let him know how much it bothers you or tell him to let her know she needs to respect that he is in a relationship and she needs to limit her calls cuz it bothers you he respects your feelings and if he can't do that then maybe you should start rethinking you two's relationship.
2007-01-29 01:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by MsDeelover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say" it's either ME or HER, I don't like you talking with your ex, so if you want to keep me TELL HER that you do not want to talk and if she keeps coming back just ignore her."
and tell the ex to leave him alone too cause you don't like it. just print that paragraph or something that you wrote.
if it doesn't work find a more sincere guy who DESERVES you...at least YOU tried and if it doesn't work, move on, leave him in the dirt.
2007-01-29 00:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur gut instinct if u think he's doing something foul then he probably is... but if u keep allowing urself to go through this drama then u deserve it... u need to let him know how u feel cause he is supposed to be thinking of ur feelings, and how this is affecting u and ur relationship w/him and if he can't put u first then u need to move on.. his ex shouldn't even be a topic of discussion....
2007-01-29 00:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me I'd have to move on. its already causing major trust issues for you and he doesn't seem to want to handle it or take care of it for your sake. this girl is just trouble and maybe he likes the drama of it all who knows
2007-01-29 00:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by donnyschick33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is the past and it is truely over.. he should definately cut all ties.. he can change his number then he wouldnt have to worry about her calling.. if he says that alot of trouble and he would have to tell everyone then apparently you arent as important as you should be and she get away now..
2007-01-29 00:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by bajajunglemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are just friends...
If you still feel uncomfortable about this whole thing then talk to him... Don't do anything rash or ugly.. You might just lose him to someone else or worst "her"...
2007-01-29 00:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by -K3llY- 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋