My sister and I and a few other family members are holding a benefit for our sister in law.Her baby is in the hospital(as i pre.posted) and the hospital is quite a distance away from where we all live.We are having the benefit to help raise money for traveling cost, Room cost,Food and etc.They do not have much money and need to pay bills at home as well. We also put money jars in stoes as well to help.She has not said anything directly to me,But she told her sister that she was overwhelmed and kind of upset at it all becuz now everywhere she goes people are asking how Faith(baby) is doing and she is really not sure herself of the answer.We are only doing this to try to help and we thought she would apprieate it.We never thought it would be a problem so we wanted it to be a surprise.Now I do not even feel like doing it if she is gonna get mad.The most important thing is Faiths health,And we all cant help make her better,So we thought we would help with the money burdins..Plz help
2007-01-29 00:47:05 · 10 answers · asked by rowebaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok take it from someone who has been there (baby in hospital) the only thing on her mind right now is her baby. i am sure she appreciates everything you guys have done for her but it is hard for her to shell out thanks and gratitude when she is hurting so much. all you can do is keep helping and keep being there for her, you are doing the right thing i promise. I've been in her shoes and its the hardest thing anyone will ever deal with. i hope Faith comes home soon and is as healthy as can be. and remember don't give up on her. good luck to you.
2007-01-29 01:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inside, she'll probably be so pleased with everything you are doing for her and her family, however, her concern is for her baby and her family.
She will be upset that she has to keep repeating the situation to every well-wisher that asks her, even though their intentions are kind and for all the right reasons. She may even feel embarrassed the fact that others are being so generous.
It's a hard situation for you ones to be in, but stay strong and perhaps re-assure her that this is one of the ways you know of to try and help and support her.
Good luck
2007-01-29 01:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep helping her. At this point she is probably more upset about her baby being in the hospital. You have to understand and overlook her behavior. You know you are doing a good deed and that you can go to sleep with a good conscience knowing that you have done a good thing.
2007-01-29 00:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur sister-in-law might be feeling very stressful with her child being in hopsital and worrying abt her baby constantly. she might be having a emotional breakdown. I believe that u are doing these benefit with good intentions but sometimes we need to keep in mind other people's emotions. i would suggest you talk to ur sister-in-law about it, help her to understand that you just want to help and in the midst of ur conversation, support her and encourage her because even though the money problem is there, what she needs is the love, concern and encouragement from her family and friends. i'm not saying you cannot hold his benefit but just have communication with your sister-in-law first
2007-01-29 01:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by rlsh07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor mother has a lot on her plate. What you are doing is nice but you have to see her side, she is forced to talk about something painful and there are times she won't want to. She is not thinking clearly right now and you should be sensitive to that. Don't do this expecting a pat on your back from her, she is busy worring about her baby. Good luck to all of you.
2007-01-29 00:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a lovely idea but perhaps you should have checked with your sister in law first - it would be understandable if she felt a bit overwhelmed and perhaps embarrassed at all the attention at a time when she's stressed anyway. Maybe you ought to speak to her directly and explain what you're planning and ask if it's OK with her.
2007-01-29 00:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your sister-in-law is pridefull. She thinks this makes her family look poor. She doesn't want to feel like she needs handouts from people. She is also under alot of stress with her baby being sick so just try and understand. Keep helping as much as you can she will come to realize everyone is trying to help and not trying to just make her feel like she needs handouts.
2007-01-29 01:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels guilty of not being able to do it herself.Don't worry she will be grateful when she realizes all the people that care
2007-01-29 00:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is under tremendous stress and will not react to things as she might normally....just cut her some slack and don't take anything she says or does personally....it's difficult when you have a sick child and people keep asking you what's happening and you just don't know yourself.....good luck
2007-01-29 00:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wonderful of you. don't stop because of how she feels, remember you are doing ot for the baby.
2007-01-29 00:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋