my sister is having self confidence issues at the moment because she has a picture of me in her purse and all of the guys she likes always tell her how hot i am and whatnot. she says that she thinks all the guys she likes wants me instead. she says she doesn't feel pretty compared to me and whatnot.
she's 15... soon to be 16 and i'm 20.
i try telling her that i had self confidence issues when i was her age and then i grew into my looks and body finally.
she's a little larger than me but carries it really well.
she's a beautiful girl and just a doll to be around.
i know she'll grow up to be beautiful but i can't make her see it right now.
i'm not like forcing words down her throat that aren't true or anything.
and i've even cracked jokes about it to lighten her up by saying hey look on the bright side you don't look like kevin (our brother)
can i help her overcome this or is it something she'll do in time?
2007-01-29 00:39:58 · 10 answers · asked by Back*To*Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at that age all the boys are thinking of the older sister.. definately keep reassureing her let her know that the guys will eventually mature.. unfortunately not for years to come and if she is self confident then the boys will like her.. its not whats outside its in..and she should outgrown this.. eventually
2007-01-29 00:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by bajajunglemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a body issue, there's no real way you can make her see how beautiful she REALLY is, it's a journey she has to go through herself.
the only thing you can do is compliment her every so often, not too much or she'll think your being fake, but things like how hot she looks in that top (use the word hot, not pretty, girls don't like being told they look cute or pretty, that's 10 year old girl compliments, she wants to feel sexy) or how her hair looks really nice in that style.
maybe even buy her a really nice top or something, soemthing very flattering for her.
or go to the hairdressers together and get new 'dos'.
dunno, just help her feel good about herself, remember you can't MAKE somone love themselves, but you CAN make them feel good about themselves.
best of luck, and don't worry
also insist she don't show your photo to everyone and anyone(it'll stop her also feeling like the ugly one, when people compliment you in the photo).
self esteem issues, thats all, totally normal, hey i'm 18 and i still hate how my nose widens when i smile or laugh.
she'll be okay, just compliments ever so often.
all the best
2007-01-29 08:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough time in a girls life - you have been there, so you know. Just keep reassuring her, but not in such obvious ways, tell her when her hair looks just right, or a new outfit really works for her. Besides that, let her know that anyone who is solely intersted in your looks isn't the kind of person you'd want to be around anyway. The people who are interested in you as a complete person are the ones that are worth your time.
2007-01-29 08:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy thing is easy to deal with. I presume they are her age and at 15 and more hormonse than brain cells that fancy everything. Especially when its a little older. That way they can big themselves up while focusing on the unatainable. That means to a guy that by you beig unatainable they do not have to deal with their hear and now, your sister. Truth is they are just as scared and concious of themselves and she is.
Probability is she will grow up to have many of your looks and atributes so all she has to do is wait and things will work out.
PS the guys will grow up a little as well and that will take the presure off.
2007-01-29 08:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that beauty comes from within, and it's not always what's outside that counts.. and if she's confident about herself, she'll shine...and people will think that she's beautiful...
2007-01-29 08:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by pieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time, but meanwhile u can keep on reassuring her that she is beautiful.
With time she will respond to your brain wash sessions.
2007-01-29 08:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her to burn your picture and hate you for stealing her boyfriends. Tell her it's always been about you.
2007-01-29 11:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encouragement and time but don't over encourage.
2007-01-29 08:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Doofus B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her encouragement!
2007-01-29 08:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is young, give her time.
2007-01-29 08:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋