I know a guy, and we share so much affection and joy together. He really loves me, too- he is all that I could hope for on the inside.
Is it really such a bad thing, that he isnt what I was looking for, PHYSICALLY, though he is everything spiritually?
2007-01-29 00:22:05 · 18 answers · asked by Yentl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would that be settling, or making a mistake, or would it be a terrible thing to throw away a beautiful relationship with potential, looking for "looks"?
2007-01-29 00:22:51 · update #1
Yes, I am a female LOL :)
2007-01-29 00:41:40 · update #2
Just think if you are together for 50 years, he's not gonna look a whole lot more attractive than what he is now (and neither will you) Will you still love him then?
If you share such love and joy, the physical attraction will be overpowered by your emotional / spiritual attraction (especially for you being a girl). That's why people manage to stay together, because they learn to love the other person despite their failings (in whatever area) and agings
2007-01-29 00:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Gruntled Employee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're at the age when you start to recognize that looks aren't everything... no matter what you do, the looks will go with age - there are very few people who keep that 'hot' look forever...
If the person is everything you want, but not that stunning hottie... you have a potentially great long term relationship... if you really don't have any sexual interest, maybe you aren't quite really at the age for 'settling' yet - but like the rest of us, you'll learn that looks aren't everything.
If you find the person attractive emotionally, intellectually, and romantically - then stick with it, in the long run, you'll be happy with your choice.
Just my .01
-dh
2007-01-29 00:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to assess what's more important to you - looks or what a person holds on the inside. What you must also remember is that it's not the outside that makes a man, it's the inside. So you could be dating the most physically attractive person but inside....... Of course we'd all like to have the entire package, but despite numerous opinions from many of us, no one's perfect :-) Hey, maybe you also need to keep in mind that maybe someone somewhere may not find you physically attractive...but of course we would all like to think there's more than physical beauty that we have to offer ;-) Beauty vs. Brains
2007-01-29 00:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a bad thing? No. Can you live with it? That's the question. If you are going to be knowing in your heart that you "could have done better in the looks department" - instead of being grateful for finding a wonderful soul - then you should get out of the relationship now.
My opinion? Superficial people are the ugliest people there are.
2007-01-29 00:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really in love with him, his looks should not be an issue.
Not everyone gets the whole package they desire, but from the way you wrote, it sounds like you have found the most important qualities, so why think you are settling? Just enjoy your relationship and don't focus on the outside, inside is all that matters.
2007-01-29 00:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The looks get the attention, the heart gets the love. Don't throw away a relationship cuz you want looks. And I hope you're just a girl using a guy's picture?
2007-01-29 00:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by warrenfeltz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually prefer women who are only modestly attractive. Like a 5 to 7 out of ten. Looks are important of course, but don't be too dazzled by them.
2007-01-29 00:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry youre in such a difficult situtation. This is a big decision you have to make. But I cant answer it, only YOU can.
The question is, what is more important to you?
Looks-Vs- Spiritually?
I know what I would do. I just hope you make the right decision!
also, can anybody please help me with my dilemma?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmqDZyWhmQqaX.x0py5tkDQjzKIX?qid=20070128135757AARoiXC
2007-01-29 00:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by thats it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day love isn't about look,s i've been in ur situation and i use to think looks were everything but ever since i started to date i prefered to go with someone who makes me laugh, have a good time and that we can have a good conversation. not someone who may look like brad pitt but gives u the most boring time of ur life. go for him and u'll realise thats u love him not cos he's perfect lookin but cos his imperfections make him perfect
2007-01-29 01:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋