is my ex using me she has a bf?

Question

my ex did want to marry me and loved me heaps.we broke up didnt talk then she got bf who was like totally doing anyting and everyting for her. we started talking again when she should hate me.she when she has probs with her bf cause he is weak and she cant express herself to him cause he will cry, she runs to me and talks with me. i said you just come vent to me and then can be normal around him.she said she confused who she want and wont give me str8 answer when i say i shouldnt see her if she want that she dodges question.does she want me or the new guy i am more of a man this guy like weak but really loving i told her i changed.she calls me everyday and we talk, but then i dont know if she doing that to make him work harder to please her, cause i dont think he knows we talk.when they argue he uses my name saying how she did this and that for me but not him.when i talk about us she doesnt say antying all she talk about is him and his feelings if she left cause he done nothing wrong.

Answer 1

well i hope the new guy cries cuz ur x gf is a lesbiasn

Answer 2

Just for your own peace of mind, break it off 100% with your ex. You are letting her use you. Why break it off with the new guy when she can have you both? Don't be a chump. I know it is hard and that you love her, but use your head. Tell her to get back to you when she knows what she wants, but that you aren't her warm, fuzzy security blanket to fall back on. Either she wants to be with you or she doesn't--stop the games. It is painful, but is dragging this on and on and taking what you can get (which isn't much) okay with you??? You teach people how to treat you and you are teaching her to walk all over you. Gather up your self-respect and walk away. If later she decides she can't live without you (and she probably will once you pull out of this), be very careful. She sounds immature. I would not commit to her or trust her until she proves she is trustworthy. Give it time and protect yourself. In the meantime, don't tolerate the mistreatment. You sound like a VERY nice guy and that is great, just don't be a stupid guy. Best to you.

Answer 3

that was a little confusing but if its what i think i got then dont waste your time with her. she is just going to bring you down. if she loved you and wanted to stay with you then she would have. i can see where you guys can be friends but her coming to you like that, you still have the feelings for her that she doesnt have for you and to me it kinda sounds like shes keeping you there as a back up in case this doesnt work out she wont have to be alone. let her vent to you, talk to her, be her friend. but dont let it get any farther than that. dont ask her if she wants you she obviusly dont and if she comes at you like that tell her she left and you are done. you just want to be friends. that shouldve been established when you broke up. hope ive helped at least a little

Answer 4

well first of all i know that controlling our emotions is hard but i would like u to sit back,relax and give it a thought... is it really worth it?
if u feel yes..give it one last try... tell her what u feel about her and tell how the events have been affecting you... if she loves u she ll understand..
and whenever she calls u supress ur emotions and talk to her as a friend.. dont put up ur emotions... give her some time to think if u really love her... but think do u want to put ur life in soup for someone who ditched u and now feels her new bf is not worth it... i am sure if this happens again in the future u'll probably end up screwing ur life... so think buddy...

Answer 5

ok this is a classic case of playing both ends against the middle...... your GF's using both of you...and giggling like a bandit the whole time...... wake up.smell the coffee and move on buddy. cause as long as you let her she'll keep doing it......I mean honestly .she couldn't be more obvious if she took out billboards..... now I'm not going to get into the whole "why she does this" its not my thing. but as long as your around she will continue. its time to cut yor losses and run before she drags you or anyone else deeper into the mess.......

Answer 6

i can only offer how i see things from reading your question. when you made your offer call me just to vent you offered such in friendshipship nothing more than this. but it sounds like in a sense you offered such in an attempt to win her back she dodges your questions do you want me as one she don't and two she took you up on your offer to vent. as for using you she has to come to terms in her time not yours who she really wants and shouldn't be calling you 24/7 everytime something goes wrong in their realtionship you can't fix all her problems at some point in time if she is so unwilling to leave him she sould be dealing with this on her own

Answer 7

I suggest that you cease your involvement in this situation. I see little good it can be for you. In a polite manner, I would ask your ex to stop calling you and change your phone number. She seems to be playing the two of you against each other.

Answer 8

Are you making this up because it sounds loopy. "i trust like he shouldnt care about utilizing a condom if he really loves me" He probable needs to placed on a condom so he would not develop right into a daddy. you should apply condoms. do you want an STD?

Answer 9

Totally, move on. And what kinda wimp cries about stuff like that?

Answer 10

I asked her and she said it's okay as long as I keep doing her doggy style.