I am a fuller figured lady and usually have pretty good self esteem but?

Question

when my BF is around i feel not good enough for him (he is really fit and good looking) i have started a fittness routine but is there any other sugestions to help me boost my confidence

Answer 1

Be confident in the fact that your BF cares for you or he wouldn't be with you. You have to focus on what you love about yourself and realize that you are your own worst critic. As long as he loves you and you love yourself you'll be able hold your head up high. I hope this helps. Good Luck.

STYT

Answer 2

Has he done anything that makes you think that you are not good enough for him or is it just your own low self esteem that is in play here. If one is self confident then one does not have such thoughts. It is great that you are starting a fitness routine. Most men prefer a woman with a little meat, voluptuous is good!! Also remember beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...what od his eyes tell you? Remember you are special because you are you...GOD made you and there is no one else quite like you....so enjoy being you and stop worrying what others think!!! HAVE A GREAT LIFE!!!

Answer 3

You apparently have no confidence. Look on the bright side. Your bf likes who you are, the kind of person you are and other qualities. People cannot be judged by looks alone. Good for you that you are in a fitness program now. It will give you more confidence as you see the changes taking place.

Answer 4

you know what alot of us ladies, even men do have that
''oh my what am i doing with him, why is he with me, im not good enough to be with this great guy, i wonder if he compares me to other women'' going through our heads. you need to realize that he is with you and you are with him.
he loves you no matter what the cirrcumstance, and yes self-esteem does play a huge role when we feel that way even you.
i my self feel that way.
everyone goes through senarios like that, second guessing the relationship from our end.
we ourselfs put thoughts of such into our daily lives and the out come is not what we hoped it to be. even if we think positive there is always that set back that can make us feel pretty down about ourselfs

now you my dear do not need to worriy, take some time for yourself and review your thoughts and explore your imagination a little more carefully, there is always the dangers of second guessing yourself.
i cant help you boost your confindence alone, i can only give advice and share my thoughts to you and you observe them and take into coincideration.
i can only tell you is to relax and everyday when you wake up ''even if you feel and look like hell'' in the mirror just smile and say good morning to yourself. it will make your morning that much better and that good sence of well being will carry with you through out your day, and when you see your boyfriend, just wrap your arms around him and give him a big kiss and say '' how was your day hun'' you then will also feel good coz now he feels good to see you. dont give off vibes that you are unhappy with yourself you might scare him away, be that confidend woman he knows best, and make HIM feel glad to have you by HIS side, not the other way around.

good luck hun

Answer 5

We women have been brainwashed to believe that you have to be a size 4 to be considered attractive. We have been forced to believe that if you can't count every rib, then we are fat cows. We need to learn to give the finger to these false ideals and accept ourselves and appreciate ourselves the way we are. Your BF wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive. A woman with curves is more sensuous and has more sex appeal than a rack of bones. Don't let the fashion magazines, the air-brushed pictures in Playboy, or whatever else make you feel down on yourself.

Answer 6

First off, did he date you as you as you are or have you put on weight? You need to ask yourself those questions, you need to think as well is he making you feel ashamed for who you are? If tha the case then nothing will make you feel better. On the other hand if he is with you and treats you like you should be, then that should be your confidence booster? Furthermore, if you are doing the exercising to make him more attracted to you then unfortunately you have the wrong idea. If you are doing it for yourself then props. I am sure since you didn't put any negative cmments about him then I am going to say that he loves you for who you are and if he was interested in anything differant then he would be with someone else. Not to say that keeping yourself healthy is not ideal, but if you are doing it for the wrong reasons that you are not with the right person to begin with!

Answer 7

I am the same way and what helps me is to focus on the things that I am good at like cooking, so when I feel down I cook my mans favorite meal and his pleasure with that and my cooking usually helps. I also try and buy myself a new shirt or pair of pants or CD once a week for every week that I work out like I am supposed to. If I don't do all my workouts I don't get anything. This keeps me going when I get down.

Answer 8

I am the BF of a voluptous woman. I am fit and good looking. I love her body as it is and am very much attracted to her. I boost her confidence every day. Your BF is probably not interested in the way you look as much as how you make him feel, meet his needs.

Answer 9

you are the one who is saying you are not good enough for him --- why is this so ?
beauty is in the eye of the beholder --- if he loved you while were a little "fuller" then why would he not love you now just because he looks fit ; etc .
i think you are right to keep yourself in order --- but don't overdo it --- or indeed make an issue of it --- if the bf didn't worry before when you met --- he's hardly going to demand from you . good luck

Answer 10

AS I FEEL YOU ARE GREAT LOOKING GIRL chise guys has like me i like full figeurs but some like slim i like chubbi
not slim i like 42 32 5-9 5-11 dont think will start liking you
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