I've had these feelings for months but never had the courage to tell him. Anyway, I finally let it go at a friend's diner and we started talking about feelings, relationships and values we share. He's been remarkably caring and understanding & we talked for nearly 3hrs at my friend's before continuing overnight at mine.
He’s got lots of qualities and I’m driven by his personality and his force of character. BUT... a few phrases came several times during our chat such as: I don’t wanna hurt you / I just don’t know [what I want] / You deserve better, which were quite hard to hear from someone who said he’d known for long how I felt and who was being very tender with me as he was speaking.
Now I’m confused, I dunno if I should gently try and push him because my impression is that he’s so devoted to other people that he doesn’t want to allow himself a relationship he fears would take him away from what/whom he cares for, or if that’s his way of saying ‘no’ to me.
Any advice?
2007-01-28 23:52:55 · 12 answers · asked by AussieJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, the easy letdown. Been there.
Unless he's extremely lacking confidence this is exactly what it sounds like. no biggie. Would you ratehr fall head over heels just to be smashed to pieces later? He's trying to respect your feelings. Sometimes being friends is a better bet, harsh as that may sound right now.
2007-01-28 23:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by le coq géant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You picked up on some key phrases for a reason. Clearly, the guy doesn't know what his feelings are so back off and let him decide. This is the best way to convey that you care about him.
2007-01-29 00:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him again.. This time request for a straight answer.. Whether it is a "Yes" or "No".. If the answer is maybe, ask him why..?
If you continue to blindly hanged on to him... You might be wasting your time crushing on guy who wouldn't want to have a relationship with you.
2007-01-29 00:02:11 · answer #3 · answered by -K3llY- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your not gonna go away from him if u do start a relationship because ur gonna work it out if u have problems
2007-01-29 00:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Vin R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what u told us in the last few sentences. if it mattered so much to u both then obstacles shdnt be a problem
2007-01-28 23:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he sounds like he's saying "no". Those phrases are definitely "no" phrases. Enjoy his friendship . . .
2007-01-29 00:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want commitment. He's giving you an early version of the "It's not you, it's me" speech.
2007-01-28 23:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him that u liked him and u did from tbhe start tell him u wanna be with him
luck
2007-01-28 23:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he's really interseted in you because if he's not then you are both wasting your time
2007-01-28 23:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it would be a no to me, but nothing ventured, nothing gained.....
2007-01-28 23:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋