Okay, so I've hit my son before in the past. Like, three times. I admitted it to my wife and signed my self up for councling. But before anything happened my son and I got into a fight and I tried to be the bigger person and walk away, so I locked him in the closet for about five hours so I could calm down. But then when she came home, she dumped me! What should I do?
2007-01-28 23:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by csiguy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, he's 15.
2007-01-28 23:42:03 · update #1
oh gee your not an attention whore are you? (can you FEEL the sarcasm?)
get a life moron.
2007-01-29 00:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be proud. You are not a good father. Why should you compete with your son, to convince you are the bigger person ? U are the bigger person, which compliment u can get without getting into a fight with your son. The fight only proves that u are the smaller person. Your wife may be feeling that she is married to an immature person, grow up before she really takes a divorce.
2007-01-29 07:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm guessing that if this is true, your son went with your wife? Obviously you already know somethings wrong, so I won't bother to tell you that. Swallow your pride, you have a lot of it, even though you think your down on yourself. Get counseling, and stick with it. It's hard to talk to someone and admit things sometimes, but I've been going to counseling for ten years, and it's awesome to have somebody to vent with who won't tell anyone. If your wife will even talk to you, have her talk to your son for you, or write him a letter. The first is probably better, since he can't tear her up. Tell him that you are a mess, and your sorry. Tell him you really want to fix this problem, and it might take a long time, maybe even a few years. Tell him that because you love him that you want to stay away from him until you straighten yourself out. Ask him to get a counselor too if he would, but that's his choice. Someday, when you are both ready you could meet and do counseling together, but I think you really need to take care of yourself first. This will help them see you are serious, and give time so there isn't as much "blow up". Your son and your wife may never want to spend time again with you. If that happens you have to be prepared to accept that. They have to make their own choices. It wasn't, and isn't your job to control them. You have to educate your child with your experience, but they have to live their own lives, and make their own mistakes. Either they learn from them by the consequences, or they don't. Straighten yourself out. Believe me, you are worth the trouble. It's what you become in the future that is important. Be patient with yourself. A lot of people are going to say a lot of cruel things. Just hang in there and don't give up. And, for god's sake, don't start any serious relationships with any women. It's not fair to them. Wait until you are ready, and don't jump the gun. This isn't going to go away overnight.
2007-02-02 07:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by shaitsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did the right thing by leaving you, (if any of this is true)
You should run your head in to a wall 15 times really hard and then stay in a closet for 5 hours. When you get out go find some counsel ling.
2007-01-29 07:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Maroo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would we be proud of you? You locked you child in the closet for 5 hours and you don't see a problem with that? I would have dumped you too. You need to sign yourself up for parenting classes and couseling.
2007-01-29 08:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were the bigger person you wouldn't have locked him in the closet in the first place. You need lots more counseling.
2007-01-29 09:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by the GC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue with counseling. I think you'll learn that locking a child in a closet for five hours is very cruel. It's probably best that your family is away from you while you attend counseling.
2007-01-29 07:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Scoots 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She left not for just that act, you must realize. There are more reasons that she left. Im sure your son wont be starting fights with you anymore. (5 hour in a closet is far from being overly abusive)
2007-01-29 07:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by tedsacoolguy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i read your other questions....and i think you just like the attention of asking this. Another thing...where does everyone get the "locking closets" none of the ones in my house have locks.
Maybe he deserved some closet time....but 5 hrs is too long try like 20mins....
2007-01-29 09:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You locked a 15 year-old in a closet for 5 hours??? What you should do is go to jail for child abuse.
2007-01-29 07:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
do you really reckon locking him up for 5 hours in a cupboard is better than hitting him??? you deserve to be 'left'....
2007-01-29 07:47:19 · answer #11 · answered by halfpint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋