I known this one girl for 3 years. We dated and it was great. But she had an ex and still loved him, I tried to accept this and I did, but I still loved her and cared for her while I was with her. But a month ago she said she had met this other guy and then like 2weeks after meeting with him, she broke up with me for this guy. I still love her, but letting go and not trying to call her is so difficult and hurts so bad. It is like she was with her ex for 5 years, then I met her and I met for when she was with him in her 4 year. I persued her for a year, thats where the 5th year with comes from.Directly after she broke up with him, she dated me. now a year and a half later she leaves me for a guy she has only known for 2 weeks. How is that possible?
2007-01-28 23:32:19 · 14 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are"reaping what you sow"she doesnt want you anymore,you are the ex that someone else was in your relationship,understand?for women like this,its like getting a new car..,they are not going to sell their new car to get the old one back.this has happened to me in many times.you need to take it as a lesson,quit calling her,because you are now in a contest,just like her ex was,and you will not win.best advice is to move on and in the next relationship keep in mind that ANYTHING could happen.
p.s.people are generally attracted to the same kind of people.
2007-01-28 23:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by greenvillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but you were her "rebound" relationship. In other words,, she was using you as a crutch to help her move on from her ex. It doesn't mean she didn't have fun with you and like you a lot. After she got her head together, she unfortuneatly decided you weren't the "right" one for her.... This new guy she met maybe is?? Time will tell...
You need to move on yourself now. Start going out with your friends more, get some new hobbies,,join a gym,, in other words,, find things to keep you busy and your mind off her!! You will start to feel better in time,,,time will heal your wounds....STAY STRONG! :)
2007-01-28 23:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW this girl is such a little skank. I know it's hard to understand because you really love her, but her feelings for you were never true. DOn't let your love go to watse. You can love someone so much better to you whereas this hoe used you as a rebound. Don't worry so much. It's gonna be hard. There is no one answer that can help you with this pain. A love this big is gonna take some time to forget. But you will. It takes time.
2007-01-28 23:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the relationship cut utterly clear, first of all to yourself. The pain of mourning the fact that it is over is much better than trying to hold on. It's clear here she's a liability. I would accept that, cut & eat my losses and move on.
A clean break is kindest in the end for ALL concerned
2007-01-28 23:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is difficult to hear, but you were a re-bound boyfriend... she was obviously trying to make her ex jealous and used you.
She is not worth it!! Go out, have fun and enjoy meeting other girls. Sounds to me like you put a lot of effort in a relationship-- any girl would wanna go out with you!! Put it all behind you. I know it hurts now... but you'll get over it, i promise!!
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-28 23:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm on the different area of the spectrum. My girlfriend broke up with me those days and now that i have been seeing different ladies, she needs me lower back. I advised her that if we broke up, i'd not communicate to her until eventually i became waiting (which i no longer have any prefer to). i'm continually getting texts from her, which I ignore about. genuinely, its an indication that i'm no longer mature sufficient to manage talking to her, only as she's no longer mature sufficient to refer to you. yet on precise of that, i also do not go with her in my life anymore as i'm now in a relationship that i'm satisfied about and given the actual incontrovertible actuality that she harm me so undesirable, I only lost all prefer to have her in my life in any respect. it is per chance the same concern with this ex girlfriend of yours. She would sense like you harm her too badly or that at this factor, no good can come from talking to you. the only component you could wish for is that factor will heal the wound. In my case, i am going to't genuinely say if i am going to ever go with to refer to her again (She extremely tore me up and it became the same concern in which we were pondering getting engaged). You both genuinely go with some time to heal, and do not agonize your self too a lot my chum, its only organic so that you could sense to blame for being perchance the only catalyst of this contemporary effect, yet my advice must be to bypass on and positioned this on the lower back of your ideas.
2016-10-16 06:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by warrenfeltz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never get a girl who dated a boy for more than 5 months before you
2007-01-28 23:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Apollo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story sound like she was using you as a rebound in her life... Means that from the start she had never really like you.. She just want to have someone to fill in a void in her life but she is not fully commited yet... She sounds seriously "Desperate" in my opinion...
2007-01-29 00:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by -K3llY- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. Time heals all wounds. It sounds like you are actually better off without her. Remember, that there is someone out there for everyone !
2007-01-28 23:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by AVENGER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were the back-up boyfriend, and she used you until something new came along. don't worry, that will go badly, too, since she obviously can't be honest with herself. you are better off without her. don't contact her again or she will take advantage when this new relationship goes to crap.
2007-01-28 23:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋