Will a boyfriend will be hurt when his girlfriend say ' you're clothes is not cool ?

Question

I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 34 years old.
I met him when summer time. He is always wearing a t shirt and short pants. that was good for me. but when I saw him when summer gone, he is wearing a polo with jeans. and he is putting polo inside of the jeans.................... I was really shocked when I saw that. and I felt generation is different.
and other day he is wearing a shirt with pants, and also he is putting the shirt inside of the pants.
I didn't say at that time about his clothes. I wanted to say I hate your taste of clothes.
Should I say that I hate your clothes sometimes, and I want to buy your clothes together ?
I think he is 34 years old and he think that I am not young, so i dont have to care about cool clothes. but he is not bad looking and he has good body, so if he change clothes, he would be good.
If I say that your cloth is not cool to my boyfriend, is it rude for him ???
When your boyfriend is wearing not cool clothes, what do u say?

Answer 1

You ask..."When your boyfriend is wearing not cool clothes, what do u say?" Mostly - I love the way my boyfriend dresses. Sometimes I say, "Oh - you might want to try dark socks with that outfit." or "Hmmmmm. That's interesting." - with a smile - letting him know that it's not MY favorite outfit - but if he likes it - that's okay. But - I have been in your situation in the past - and here's the best thing to do. First - think about all the things you LOVE about him. Is he honest? Is he kind? Hardworking? What attracted you to him in the first place? ( If it was his clothes - or his looks - your relationship is probably not very strong anyway.) So - think about WHY you llike him - and think really hard about how important it is to you that he wears a certain kind of clothes. If it really matters to you - then - YES - there is a generation difference. You are immature - and he is self confident and knows that as long as he is clean - and not offending anyone - that his style of dress is fine.

Now - if the style of dress is a minimal concern when you weigh up the whole relationship - then there are LOVING ways to get him into some clothes that you think will make him more attractive. You can say, "Hey - I'd like to try out a new look for you - with your wardrobe - will you let me help the next time you go shopping?" If he says "sure" - go for it. If he says no - it will be time to back off and decide if your going to leave a guy over the fact that he tucks his shirt into his pants.

As for "Will he be hurt?" Well - it depends on how you go about it. Think about it. If you showed up - all dressed up - and ready for an evening of fun with somebody you really cared about - and they said "Your clothes are not cool." - how would you feel?? There would probably be some embarressment, sadness, and defensiveness on your part. Make sure you present this in a loving way. He need not know that you think there is anything wrong with his clothes now. Possibly - you can just gently steer him toward a different style of dress.

And just for the record - you don't have to care about cool clothes. Once your boyfriend knows that "cool clothes" are really important to you - he may think that you are superficial. And to him - that may be less attractive than his clothes are to you.

Answer 2

It shouldn't matterwhat he is wearing. If you care about him, then you'll be able to see past that. My ex-husband used to wear some of the most ridiculous clothes I've ever seen in my life...but I didn't say anything because I loved him and it didn't matter because that was him. Also, there is a bit of an age difference between you two, which means he's from a different generation. They dress differently than we do. That's the way it is. If you comment on his clothes, he will do one of two things: 1) he will be hurt because you are criticizing his taste, or 2) he will simply ask you to deal with it. Changing someone's clothing style is the most visible way to change a person...and I do not believe that is what you want. Try to look past the clothes and appreciate the person underneath.

Answer 3

It's great when you meet someone who you love for many reasons but if they have a bad habit, then it's hard to talk about it.
What you can do is show him some pictures of BEFORE AND AFTER...find some pictures in magazines or on line of someone dressed like HIM NOW...and how he would look in a better outfit....tell him you would like him to try something different that would show his best features. Sometimes men need a suggestion just a few ideas that makes them look more updated.

If you and your boyfriend get along great and it's easy to talk to him I see no reason why you can't make a suggestion. But, if he gets upset easily and throws fits or tantrums...I would not talk to him about his way of dressing. Some men do not like to be told ANYTHING...by a women...So you must think how will he react so you don't end up in a argument.

A woman always has to think ahead and protect herself.

Good luck to you,
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 4

i trust for you via the undeniable fact that is an poor position to be in. certain you'll properly be in love consisting of your female friend and be attracted to her. this isn't the guy you met and fell in love with. Your female friend won't be able to probable be at liberty with how she seems and that i come across it spectacular that she stated that she expects to bypass up some extra gown sizes. there is an underlying difficulty right here someplace and that i need to accept as true with different human beings on the topic of melancholy. Does she have any girlfriends/ sisters that you would possibly want to be able to seek suggestion from? She would have spread out to at least one among them and advised them how she feels. you should really search for suggestion from the human beings close to to her.

Answer 5

You know you cant directly tell to your boyfriend that his clothes are not cool,you would probably hurt his feeling..Try some different approach...
like asking him to go out and shop,pick a shirt that you think is much better for him and say "You look great in this ensemble!"
or "Do you wanna try some new fashionable clothes?"
it might sounds to him that you didnt like his outfit but its much better way than saying him onto his face that He is so out of style.

Answer 6

used to date a much mature man too... very plain simple clothes. i meanwhile, love fashion. i started by going out shopping wiht him and go like, look at this shirt! it looks so good on u! and u noe as time goes by, he ll buy and i become his unofficial fashion consultant. his friends start complimenting him and thanking me for spicing his wardrobe instead of the old boring him. But gf, u have to prepare appreciative looks from other chicks towards ur man as well. in my case, some are really bold to even make a move. your choice. gd luck.

Answer 7

I think that you are very wrong here. It sounds to me like he is dressed tastefully, as opposed to the styles of young dumbsters who wear baggy pants half way down their butts.

If your thinking revolves around "what's cool and what's not cool," then I think you need to go out with younger punks. I think you have a wrong priority, or idea of real qualities.

Most sensible people really aren't that style-conscious, because they're not absorded in themselves as much as they care about others and the world around them.

Answer 8

Instead of telling him I hate your taste in clothes, why don't you start by telling him it will make him look younger if he didn't tuck in his shirt. Go window shopping and tell him he would look nice in this color or that style. I'm sure he'll listen.

Answer 9

It all depends if he is a person that is easily offended or not.
Although I see no harm in mentioning that shirts and polos look nicer if they are warn outside.

Answer 10

I think you could suggest it in a way like "You look so good when you do this". But you wouldn't like it if he tried to change you and your looks, so you should accept him as he is really.