MY 8 year old will not stop Peeing his bed?

Question

i dont give him drinks after dinner and i make sure he goes before he is asleep. And I usually wake him before I go to sleep. I know you are not supposed to punish them for this but he just seems like he just dont care. it bothers me. what can I do?

Answer 1

Here's a website that can give you more information than I could possible type here: http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/disorders/bedwetting.shtml

You can find additional informative websites by searching the web for bed wetting.

Answer 2

There's no point in punishing him -- he's asleep when it happens so that will only cause him stress. You have to look at it as something that is happening to him rather than something the is consciously "doing."

These guys that are saying to beat him are simply ignorant to the fact that it is impossible to stop something you can't control... and for the record, low IQ is something that also can't be helped (but unfortunately can't be outgrown), so I suppose we shouldn't be too hard on them either, right? ;).

Think about it, then consider the source(s).

Unfortunately peeing the bed is something he will have to (and eventually will) grow out of. This area of the brain takes longer to develop in some kids than others, and there's nothing your kid can do to make it happen faster. If you have a cow every time it happens you'll only make him feel bad about himself and it could make the problem worse. If he appears not to care, it may actually be good that he doesn't seem to be feeling shame at the moment.

The best thing you can do is minimize the scope of the problem. First off, put a vinyl cover on the mattress so that it will be easier to clean up the mess. Without the vinyl cover you have a big wet spot on the mattress that will not dry immediately, compounding the problem. This way all that gets wet is the sheets, which can be changed. Then he can immediately have a dry place to sleep, particularly if it wakes him up in the night. Show him where his clean sheets are and show him how to change them as well as where to put the wet ones (have a special place for wet sheets and clothes so that they do not impact the rest of the laundry). He may even be mature enough at this point enough to put the wet clothes in the washer, put in a capful of laundry soap, and start it.

DO NOT treat it as a punishment, but rather, simply as a way to fix the issue of having a wet bed.That way he can clean up after himself without having to worry about having to be confronted with it. There is also the option of using the sleep pants which will contain the accident entirely, but by age 8 he may be humiliated at having to wear them, so I'm not going to recommend that. Simply using the vinyl mattress slip and washing the sheets should be easy enough.

Eventually he will grow out of it. Until then it is an unconscious problem -- he simply wakes up wet. There is no way he can stop something that he does not see (or feel) happen. So just be patient and try not to make him feel too bad about it.

Answer 3

Please don't punish your child, he can't help it. The best thing you can do is be patient, caring and understanding, he will eventually grow out of it. I know its a real pain and creates heaps of washing. My daughter wet until she was just over 8 years old, she never knew she was doing it and was also becoming very embarrassed especially if there were sleepovers mentioned.

And from my own experience, I remember wetting into school age and would wake up wet, I had no idea it was happening and had no control whatsoever with waking up. I was devastated in the later years as I became older and realised none of my friends did this, (well, not that they let on), my parents rarely got impatient or angry and I was always highly thankful as its very embarrassing and frustrating when you have no control over whats happening.

He wont do it forever...how many adults do you know wet the bed?

Answer 4

Have you ever went to a doctor about it,....both my sister and brother peed the bed till bout 12 and 14..this was associated with having asthma. I also have a nephew whom is almost 6 and he has this problem too no matter how early before he's off to bed you stop giving him drinks he still seems to pee,but he does not have asthma. it could be from a list of many different things such as stress,genetics,small bladder,urinary tract infection,there might be a imbalance in the bladder muscles,also in responce to having diabetes your body creates more urine.

Answer 5

Well you need to stop giving him drinks after dinner and wake him twice . One before you go to sleep and one early in the morning at about 2:00. That is how you break the habbit.

Answer 6

He might be dreaming that he is on the toilet peeing but in reality he is peeing on himself in bed....very normal. The national average age of kids to stop wetting their beds is 8-9 yrs old. He probably can't help it. Just consult his pediatrician about this and they will inform you on what to do next. Plus, do not punish him...it will only make this situation worse and he may feel inadequate about himself. I would also buy a rubber sheet for his bed to protect his matress. You can purchase this sheet at Walmart in the bedding dept for about $3-15....it goes under his sheets. Therefore, your child will feel more secure about not wetting the bed and you will not have to worry about him ruining the matress!

Answer 7

My son wet the bed until he was about 12 yrs old. I never punished him, as a matter of fact, I never even pretended like I noticed hardly except to take the sheets off his bed and wash them.
I remember my mother yelling and screaming at my 2 older brothers for bed wetting and the shame they felt for wetting the bed. It didnt help and I am 42 now and still remember my brothers trying to cover up their bed wetting.
Please dont punish you child. He will mature out of this in his own time. Many, many boys and girls are bed wetters. Its just a fact of life. They cannot help it and punishment does nothing but shame them and make them embarrassed.
A lot of parents deny their children are bed wetters, and they are not telling the truth. They have the opinion it makes their child look better than yours. My sister currently has a little boy who wets nearly every nite at 11 yrs and and she denies he does it because its embarrasing.
Happy trails.

Answer 8

Give him 50 gms of oats with 1/2 cup of warm milk with sugar 1 hour before he goes to sleep everyday thats all ater a weeks time he will lose the habit of peeing while he is asleep.

Answer 9

wetting the bed can be a sighn of a much deepre emotional problem. Make sure there is nothing significant going on in your child's life that you don't know about. Let him know he can tell you anything without getting angry, and when he does, keep your word and don't get angry, or freak out. kids are so sensitive, they need trust. good luck.

Answer 10

He may be enjoying the attention that peeing the bed gets him from you. Maybe he has a mechanical problems with his bits?? Stop feeding the problem with negative reactions & get him checked out. Reasons for peeing the bed can range from non serious to very serious reasons. Hope it works out ok for you. Best of luck.