My son is 10 years old, he was in a normal primary school but teacher sin his school has identified him as slow learner and i too accepted him, they referred him to spcial school which i was reluctant to send and i have got permission from the government and want to send him to in international school, i accepted their offer is because they were willing to aceept my son in a lower primary level as pri 2. now after the aptitude test they were saying he is really bad and very slow, they will consider and let me know. i am lost and confused i prayed and did my best to get this school and now i m very sad, i have to bame noone except myself that i as a mum fail to realise my son was slow and did not attempt to help him as i faced my ownmatial prob, this had lead him like this today i feel so responsible and helpless, i feel i have ruied my son's future i hate myself, my maritial prob still is there, my hubby takes this very lightly i m exhausted abt my prob that i really dont know what to
2007-01-28 22:09:57 · 8 answers · asked by susan r 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First step is to get rid of your deadbeat loser of a husband so you can concentrate on helping your son. without a useless hanger on..
take your son to a professional medical expert andf get him proffesionally diagnosed.
its seems all the teachers have done is shirk their responsibilities and made him some one elses problem..
Most important ..YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME , YOU DID NOT FAIL HIM AND YOU SHOULD NOT BE BURDENED WITH THIS, LETS FACE IT YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE STILL STANDING UP FOR YOUR SON AGAINST A USELESS HUSBAND AND A SYSTEM...THAT IS STRENGTH, NOT FAILURE... there are professionals who are equipped to handle these situations and you need to get in touch with them.
I dont know where you are from but it sounds like you are not from a western country.and I do not know what to do to help you.
If you want to contact me off line at simon_sainteclaire @yahoo.com I would be willing to see how I could help you more.
Simon
2007-01-28 22:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dont blame your self for your son being a little slower than others. Just get him in the school where they can help him. I know its hard to have someone say something is wrong with your child but being slow isnt the end of the world. Some people have a hard time learning school stuff but do fine in the real world with a skill they learned in school(such as auto mechanics or shop). The school will help him adjust.
2007-01-29 08:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself if your son is slow. You are not an educator so how could you know that? Now that the school says he is slow, you have to find out why. Maybe he is smart but has a learning disability like dyslexia. The school and / or the government should have programs for diagnosing learning problems and if they don't, then this is something you will have to pay for. That means: you accepted that your son is slow (at least for now), so the NEXT STEP is to find our WHY he is slow. After that YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT. I promise you. God bless you.
2007-02-02 02:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie Preston 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get yourson profesionally diagnosed.Then you can take it from there.Dont blame yourself.Men dont always understand these things about kids.First step is to get your son diagnosed then you can work out a school he can go to. All is not lost.You can still help your son.
2007-01-30 21:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont blame yourself, you know you are not magic sometimes you are busy with real problems, your son is an intelligent boy and he is gonna get trough this, let the school decide it does not matter, now you have to protect him give him a lot encourge him tell him every day that you love him, go out with him, give him a lot confidence and bring books at home and try to teach him everyday something new.
2007-01-29 06:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need someone to talk to about what you're going through- not just for your son but for yourself and the well-being of your family. Contact your son's school counselor and see if there are any guidance programs in your area.
2007-01-29 19:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was a slow learner, and he is probably one of the smartest ones I know. He had to go to special schools and it helped him. Dont be so hard on yourself. Just work at your childs pace with helping him and be as patient as you can.
2007-01-29 10:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by themom95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but how is dis a question?no one can help u out realy sorry :(((((
2007-01-29 06:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋