my boyfriend comments on girls and their bodys, im glad he is honest but this makes me feel quite insecure, i feel like he really fancies them and would really like to sleep with them as he says comments like 'i'd do her' and 'she's got nice ****'
is this normal for me to get so jealous or am i really soft? should i do the same to him about guys and see how he likes it?
2007-01-28 22:01:48 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T do the same thing because then he might not care (or act like he doesn't care...or even make MORE comments) and that will make you feel worse. besides...it's not about playing games. simply TELLING him it bothers you and makes you feel bad should be enough for him to stop.
it's normal for him to be attracted to the opposite sex, but he is being inconsiderate by telling you about it. he probably likes making you feel insecure.
it's unhealthy to stay with a guy that makes you feel bad about yourself. i know you love him, but if he doesn't stop, you need to leave.
2007-01-28 22:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by soren 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me hun- there are soooo many guys that carry on this way - I dont think they even realise how insensitive they can be to how these comments make us feel!
i had an ex that used do the exact same - I went down the route of how guys were fit etc - but then he got even worse about commenting about the girls to piss me off even more - so I dont recommend that option!
Why not talk to him - tell him that you realise he's going to be checking out girls as thats what most guys do - but you'd appreciate it if he could keep his comments to himself whilst in your company.
xx
2007-01-28 22:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf does this to me often, I know his ex's (including his ex wife) were younger, slimmer and prettier than me so it bothers me no end. that said, he has always said it since we have been together (6 months) I have told him it bothers me, but he still does it. we have a few other issues going on too, but at the end of the day I would rather he be comfortable saying it to me, than lusting behind my back. I have to say I have started commenting on good looking guys recently and he does seem to get a bit insecure about us when I do it.. go with what you feel is the right thing for you, but don't let him make you feel inferior by his comments.
2007-01-28 22:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by happy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to feel jealous in a relationship..dont worry..x
He obviously doesn't respect ur feelings...!
Don't do the same to him, you are much betta than that, you should be with someone who does respect ur feelings, definitley have a talk to him and explain how these comments make u feel. If it doesn't stop, I would just get rid of him...!
And I think what TEXASMALE said to you is also disrespectful, why did he bother to answer with something like that????
x
2007-01-28 22:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal bloke talk but most only say it to there mates and not there girlfriends next time he says it tell him you dont want to know, and if he carries on answer him with something like "if her **** are that good why dont you ask her for a feel " see his reaction lol.
2007-01-29 00:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy who did this same thing. I could never figure out the purpose of his actions especially when they have a warm blooded, live woman right next to them?? It did make me realize that we were on two different maturity levels and the relationship would not go far. A true gentleman wouldn't do this sort of thing.
Your heart and mind will tell you what to do. Good luck! : )
2007-01-28 22:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are going to look and comment on other women, even if it's women on the television. They are much more visual than women. I think you should ask him to refrain from always commenting out of respect for you. My bf comments on other women, but he also tells me how hot he thinks I am so I don't worry too much. I am older and am used to this behavior in men. As you mature as a woman you realize this behavior is normal. As long as he is not cheating on you and tells you how hot you are try not to take it personally. If you can't handle it, dump him. There are a lot of hot guys out there....start noticing them!
2007-01-30 08:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by journeysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be quite honest I agree with Fraisier, I think it's time you found some one who will appreciate you for who you are. If he is too busy looking else where he is obviously missing what he has. Don't let him talk like that around you, you desreve to be respected. It's completely normal to be jealous, but I wouldn't waste my time on it. Find some one who will respect and appreciate you...
2007-01-29 01:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Rusty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one: on the one side of the line you could say well you can look but not touch. On the other hand he is saying them sort of things then maybe he dont respect you hence maybe you should consider your future with him.
It really is one of them questions that you need to answer yourself, if you are comfortable with him doing it then leave it be. On the other hand it really annoys you like you have said, then maybe its time to move on.
A last point to make: I dont believe that doing the same to him is right as it would be sinking to his level.
Thats my opinion....all the best, Karl
2007-01-28 22:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Karl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for you to feel jealous,what ISNT normal is the way your boyfriend disrespects you by saying those things.Yes everyone looks,maybe the odd comment is fine but to say "i'd do her" is bang out of order.Tell him how you feel,if he doesnt stop it then get rid of him for someone who cares about your feelings.
2007-01-28 22:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋