My youngest half brother is 18, his is in college in Huston Tx. my life as a child was all messed up as far as my parents go. They both drank and eventually they both cheated ending the marriage. My step bro has always gotten everything he wants such as x-box, brand new 2006 Nissian Infiniti and a all expence payed for college education. My dad has been doing all of this for him. My dad has a total of 6 kids and never did anything as far as car and fancy x-box games ect.. What can I do to get it though his head that what he is doing is hurting my step bro.. for crying out loud he don't even know how to wright a check out for cash.. no joke..
2007-01-28 21:28:58 · 3 answers · asked by ompie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not that I am jealous. Because he already totaled the Infinite after 4months of owner ship, I told my dad it wasn't the greatest Idea that he had buying him a car. I also could care less I have a house and 3 cars, My point was to get advise on how to tell my father that what he is doing is hurting my brother rather then helping him... What is my dad going to be alive forever to pick him up when he is 36 and has no idea how to fend on his own? I think not..
2007-01-29 06:49:50 · update #1
It is not your place to "raise" your Dad or to teach him how to become a better parent. These are skill sets he must learn on his own and sometimes, experience is the BEST teacher.
Please bear in mind that intervention doesn't necessarily lead to prevention.
Though you are grown and have a lot of insight to offer, your Dad will see you as his child and nothing else. To try to usurp that role and tell your Dad how to "handle his business" will only offend him and aggravate the situation.
Your Dad will assume that any advice you provide about raising your half-brother is motivated by jealousy and envy rather than good intentions. As such, the advice will fall on deaf ears and potentially harm the current relationship you have with your Dad.
Your Dad will learn the error of his ways when his chickens (including your half-brother) come home to roost after graduating from college. Your Dad will see that he has enabled his son in the worst way and that his son lacks the necessary life survival skills to make it on his own.
Just because you are clairvoyant and see the writing on the wall doesn't mean that your Dad wants to see it or even can see it. Just take a mental Rolodex note of what not to do when raising your children and keep on moving with your own life. When your Dad reaches his "season", be there to console and advise him, should he ask for some insight.
2007-01-28 21:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes as parents we lose site of what we are teaching our kids we try to be their friend and thats not a good thing,most kids have all the friends they want and what they need is a parent to set rules and boundries but the most important thing to remember is your dad is more then likely doing his best.
i understand the feeling of being left out when he doesnt give cars and game systems to all of his children but think about how he feels about you does he show you love and understanding is he there for you when you have a problem?to me thats what makes a dad and all the cars in the world wont make make a man a good father but someone that will sit and listen and care about you is far more important,so my advise is just be the best you that you can and love your dad not for the things he has given you but for the man he has raised you to be and be glad you still have him in your life even with the flaws you see in him
2007-01-29 08:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop your jealous bitchin'. If your brother is in college than he deserves some of thoes things. He needs a reliable car to get to school, he needs the money to pay for school and a xbox game is a nice treat.
2007-01-29 09:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋