All of my family live in PA, while his family lives in TX, where we currently live. My family is large, his family is small. Which is the fair route, to have all of my family come to Texas or to have his family travel to PA? So far eloping seems like the only answer.
2007-01-28 21:25:48 · 11 answers · asked by twilightjlo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No matter what, with an event like a wedding people will do their best to be there and there are usually no hard feelings associated with traveling for such an event. Remember this is a life changing event, not just some party. A wedding is much different in peoples minds and most, if not all, will try to move mountains to be there to share in the day.
You live in TX, I would suggest having it there, this is the place it will be easiest to plan in, its very hard to plan long distance since you cant be someplace at a moment notice if you are 23 states away.
However, if you decide to plan it in PA, then I would strongly suggest you hire a wedding planner to control the day. She will be nuetral. If you trust your mother/sister/friend to do the planning you run the risk of that person planning her day instead of yours. With a planner you she will do your biddings, and not choose pink because she thinks it will look better even though you like purple.
If this were me though, I would most definitely have it in Texas. Its where you live and are settled. People will understand that and will come.
If I could suggest one other thing, if its in your budget, I would offer to pay for the lodging of everyone that travels from PA. It would be a realy nice gesture on your part. Its not mandatory, but a good idea and might make the decision for people to come much easier because they wont have to pay for travel and a room.
2007-01-29 01:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should have the wedding in PA, any wedding we have been invited to... it was always held in the home state of the bride. I am sure some of the groom's family and perhaps some of your friends might not be able to make the trip, so in that case plan a small gathering when you return so others have a chance to celebrate in your joy. I really don’t think anyone will question your choice seeing you are the bride and the bride usually does go home to have her wedding no matter where she currently lives. Best of luck to you!!
2007-01-29 03:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're so lucky. I have to deal with two different countries. My family is all in the USA, and his is all in Denmark. I'm still not sure how we're gonna pull it off, but I think you should have the wedding wherever you want. If your family and his family really want to attend the wedding, they'll figure out how to get there no matter what. Make a road trip out of it!
2007-01-28 21:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your State.
On second thoughts, chose a place where expenditure is least including what people will spend in transportation.
Best to have it with your family. You owe it to parents.
Then have a small party for those who could not come from Texas in TX so they feel good. Just a thought.
2007-01-28 21:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am having the same problem,I have family in NJ, NC (where we live) and FL. We have chosen to go to the people we knew we couldn't go to. I would think about that to. His family is smaller, hense less people to shift, where your is larger are you willing to not have half of you family come because they can't afford to travel? Good Luck
2007-01-29 13:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the state that you live in yourselves....even if it is the state his family lives in. That makes it fair in the sense that you're not choosing a state based upon any family, but choosing the state based upon your own residency.
Good luck!!
2007-01-29 01:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If money is an issue then do it in Tx where it'll be cheaper. Although, I'd rather have my fiance's fam travel than mine. And his is smaller. They should be traveling. I'm in the same predicament - NYC, Miami, Wisconsin! We're eloping lol.
2007-01-28 21:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It should be held in your state and you can follow with a second reception in his state. This is traditional as the bride and her mother do the bulk of the planning and arranging, a matter of convenience for the planners.
Congratulations & good luck!!!!
2007-01-28 23:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're the bride? You're parent's paying for it? Your relatives willing to fly that far? Are his parents/relatives stubborn about it?
There's a reason why someone wrote a song titled "All my Ex's live in Texas"
2007-01-28 21:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by White Stallion 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually it's held where the couple lives and everyone else travels.
2007-01-28 21:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋