How can i get my 4 year old not to break his glasses?

Question

It is important that he keeps his glasses on all the time, and when he's upset he diffuses his anger on his glasses, what to do? And don’t tell to buy another one, cause I did 4 times already.

Answer 1

Getting the bending ones sounds good, but he needs to learn that breaking his glasses is not OK.

Talk to him when he is not mad, and explain he can go to his room and punch pillows, or you will give him paper to rip up, but if the glasses get broken again he will not be allowed to x, and he will have to do extra chores to help pay for the glasses. I suggest no TV or video games (visual pastimes) and of course he will never be able to pay for the glasses, but clearing the table after breakfast will remind him to simmer down.

Perhaps you need to have him only use glasses when he is supervised if it happens yet again...hence no outside activities that require vision, no enjoyable activities without an adult being right by his side.

Good luck, even a 4yo can understand consequences with help and reinforcement.

Answer 2

you might try talking to some optometry places in your area, and ask them about glasses that are more appropriate for his age.
they do make some glasses that are more resistant to breakage.

they also have glasses that are strapped to an elastic band rather than just ear pieces.

another thing is to let your son know that if he breaks them while having a tantrum that behavior will not be tolerated. he is old enough to know better by now. and so if he does act out again and break the glasses that you have to keep paying for....then HE needs to lose some sort of privilege that he values very highly.
grounding him from a favorite activity or something such as that can be a real behavior motivator. 4 yr olds don't understand the significance of money..therefore telling how expensive they are and such goes right over his head.
he needs to know in simple terms that he does X then Y will happen.

also..i would be a bit concerned over this level of rage in a child of 4 yrs old.
what is going on here? why is he so angry?

Answer 3

I would like to know what makes a 4 year old so angry that he uses his glasses as to diffuses his anger.? I think you should also.

Since he is 4, I am assuming that he is able to understand when he has dont something wrong.

You need to sit him down and explain to him the best way for him to understand that the glasses are important and NOT to break them .

Answer 4

You could buy a sport strap for his glasses. Go back to the place where you bought the glasses and see if they sell them there. The strap is tight fitting and keeps his glasses on his head....lots of kids wear them when playing sports. Good luck!

Answer 5

The only thing I can think of is to talk to him and both of you figure out something else he can do (that's more acceptable) if he gets angry and frustrated. Give him something to keep in his pocket, or else let him wear something else that he can take his anger out on.

Tell him you are going to get in trouble with the school if he keeps breaking his glasses.. Tell him that glasses cost a lot of money, and the school expects you to teach him how to take care of them; and if he breaks them again you'll get in trouble. (He's four and probably won't ask, but if does ask how you'll get in trouble tell him the school will write up a report that says you can't teach your child to take care of his expensive glasses).

Answer 6

get him the ones that can bend every direction...not much to worry about other than the lenses

Answer 7

buy those with plastic lenses so that they dont break

Answer 8

Superglue them to his face.