I have a friend who got officially married a couple years ago, but it was city hall type marriage. Now she is having a big wedding, but they got *surprise* pregnant before hand. They plan on still having the wedding, but she will be around 7-8 months when she has the big shabang. Maybe I am just old fashioned, but I personally find it would be a little weird to have a wedding when your pregnant, especially since there is certainly no need to hurry since you are already married. Am I old-fashioned because I don't think it is normal for there to be a big-bellied bride, or am I an average person on this matter?
2007-01-28 21:02:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let Us separate the various parts of you question:
1. You feeling are valid and need to be respected.
2. Personally I agree with you that is does seem strange to do that. you must remember there is a frame of mind that does go with the wedding ceremony and covenant they emphasize innocence and all those things. Although in truth it may not apply many of us like the illusion of it all.
3. Your friend seems like a "real" person and in effect she is married and does not have to have the "illusion" but does want to celebrate. It is her wedding... let het have her day.
One thing to note is that babies, in my experience do not have calenders and / or work on exact timetables....be prepared for more than one celebration on that day should she be so close to her EDD.
Have fun!
2007-01-28 21:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by insane2mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems a little ridiculous to me -- first of all that they're renewing their vows so soon (as another answerer stated, it does almost seem like they may be doing it just for the gifts), and second of all that they're doing it while she's going to be rather well-along in her pregnancy. Personally, I don't see why they don't just postpone it a few more months -- what woman who is that far along feels like throwing a big party and getting into a wedding dress?!?
2007-01-29 07:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you already pointed out, your friend is already officially married. What does it matter if she has the big wedding while pregnant? After all, it's her wedding, right? Even if you don't agree with her decision, she needs your support right now.
2007-01-29 05:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! Whether I am old fashioned or average, I'm not sure! I just know that's how I feel! I also feel that a big bellied bride getting married in a church is a little tacky, but no one ever asked my opnion on that either!
2007-01-29 05:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's already married! She can't get married again! She can renew her vows, but that's pretty uncommon that soon. Usually that is done when a couple have been married 20, 30 years or whatever.
Looks to me like she is just wanting a big "wedding" to get gifts.
Looks ridiculous to me!
2007-01-29 05:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think old-fashioned. my sister was 3 months pregnant when they got married (by a judge - last 2005). i also had the same reaction as yours. i think the church wont allow you to get married if your tummy is already big. they would tell you to wait. but their parents told them that they should get married before her tummy gets bigger and bigger and bigger so they've decided to get a judge to officiate their wedding at our auntie's beautiful house. our family is kinda conservative when it comes to this kind of situation.
2007-01-29 10:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Chelsea's Momi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's her wedding and she can have it whenever she wants. While you may think otherwise, you are not the one getting married. Let her have her big day however she wants it and just be happy for her.
2007-01-29 08:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just isn't appropriate to do that at all. Pregnant or not, it is just silly to have "another" wedding; people need to be content to have the one they already had!
2007-01-29 06:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wiered having a wedding at that time of pregnency. Tell 'em how you feel if they don't like it, why worry yourself. It is not your wedding.
2007-01-29 05:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is already legally married.....what's your problem with that? Sounds like jealousy to me.
2007-01-29 05:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋