I have been going out on a few dates with a guy who is 11 years older than me. I am 18, he is 29 Things were going fine and we talked about dating and agreed we would wait and get to know eachother a little more before we dated. On our last date we were driving home and he stopped the car and said "i know this may be wrong but i am falling in love with you" I just said that it was fine and he shouldnt be embarressed or think it is wrong and he was fine that he had told me. But since then he has been really distant with me and if i text him his replys are really brief. Why is he being so weird??
2007-01-28 20:34:21 · 26 answers · asked by CHAZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's being like this probably because you didn't say you loved him back and thinks that you're not as into him as he is into you.
2007-01-29 01:07:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the wierd one. He was open and told you how he felt, and now he does not know what more to say because you did not tell him how you felt, if love him also go ahead and tell him and you will se him opening up and writing longer texts. Starting to date does not need a whistle . Now is the time. You better tell him how you feel or some other girl will take him. You make me laugh ,how can you just say, ''its fine'' when someone tells you they love you. Are you really 18? I think you are 15
2007-01-28 21:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels really vulnerable right now. It might also be that you did not respond in the way he had expected. Anyway it is not upon you to dwell on the past but prepare for the future. Think about it and find it in your heart whether you would like to be with guy. if so find the way and the gestures to show how much you love. Do not let the age factor to deter you from thinking.
2007-01-28 20:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made his move but did not get the answer he expected.
So he may feel offended or embarrass or he realized that he made his move too fast. He may now be buying time and wait patiently
He is not being weird but just feeling cheez off for making a fool of himself.
He may also feel rejected and does not want to be hurt again, so he is just playing cautiously.
Good Luck
2007-01-28 20:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a fellah, this guys wants you to get physical.
He said those magic words expecting you to simply say that you loved him and then "f*ck me now!"
The reason he's distant is because it didn't work.
Now he's trying to make you think he is embarrassed and sweet and in feeling that for him, you will offer your body and let him have a go on it!
It's very old male behaviour!
DON'T LET IT WORK!
Once he DOES get his wicked way with you, it'll be even more distant or fight picking and then on to the next conquest once you've split!
It isn't weirdness - it's testosterone being produced to get into your knickers!
2007-01-28 20:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is afraid to be committed with you , as he is already have some one , waiting for him at home . Any way keep maintaining your friendship , but do not fall for him or give your heart . Stop thinking and take care of your health and future too by taking things little slow and lightly for you own happy time yet to come .
2007-01-28 20:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was hoping that his declaration would get him in your pants. I'd move on. It has only been a few dates. Plus he sounds weird. You both agreed to get to know each other more, and he is already saying he loves you. How can he love you when he really doesn't know you that well yet? Creepy.
2007-01-28 20:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because when he said that he is falling in love with you he was expecting you to same the same thing. The fact that you didn't has made him go into his shell as he doesn't know how to approach or look at you anymore.
2007-01-31 22:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes embarrassed about what he told you when you didnt say that you felt the same way back - obviously if you dont feel it then you were quite entitled not to say you did - but maybe you should give him a call and explain that you were flattered about what he'd told you - and that whilst it was a bit sudden that you feel over time you could feel the same - that you dont want him to feel awkward around you and you'd really like to go back to the way things had been previously.
xx
2007-01-28 20:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was waiting for you to say that you were falling in love with him too? Your reply to him was a bit vague, it sounds like you may have confused him. You need to tell him either way how you feel about him so that he knows where he stands with you.
2007-01-28 20:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you didn't say the same thing back to him. Alot of times people ask questions or make statements in the hopes of getting a desired answer. When they don't, they sometimes get weird. If he really is "falling for you". He'll come around.
2007-01-28 20:39:44 · answer #11 · answered by himaintance75 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋