I am a virgin and my fiance is not, and I am really worried that our wedding night won't be special for him like it is for me and he will compare me to other women he has had sex with, he says that it is different because he loves me, but I am still nervous. So do you think it will be special for him and does anyone have ideas how I can make it more special for him ?
Details:
-I am 24 and he is 27
-We have been dating for 3 years and are getting married in April 07
-I am a virgin and he is not
2007-01-28 20:29:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It WILL be very special to him! You will be his wife. Let his past go and look towards your future together! Things that he did before you are over now and way behind him, let it stay there, he has chosen you to be with forever! Feel honored and relax, it will be fine! And as for doing something to make it more special, it being your first night as husband and wife will make it special enough!
Congrats and best wishes!
2007-01-28 20:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in that same situation before. when we got married, i was a virgin, my husband wasn't. i had lots of insecurities about it. whether i measure up or whether my body is nice... or whether i pleasure him or not... or simply whether what we have is special when he has done it before.
that insecurity hasn't completely faded yet (we've been married 6 months) but my husband is great and he's been helping me overcome them. he's constantly there by my side when i struggle with the feelings and emotions, reassuring me that it was special, what we have is special and there is no other woman that he would want to be his wife.
the feelings will not disappear all of a sudden. it's a slow process. but as long as you have your fiance, and soon to be husband, by your side, it will be fine. and you will be fine =)
there is nothing more special than you giving yourself wholly to him... him being the first and only one. my husband truly cherishes that gift that i have given him... he is confident and secure that his wife is a pure woman... and truly his. no one had any share with his wife. that is the best gift you could ever give him.
enjoy your special night. it will be something for you and for him to remember. =)
2007-01-29 07:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it will be special if he waited 3 years for you then of course..don't think about any of his others you are the one that matters he chose to marry you
2007-01-29 08:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be very special for him... trust me. Plus, you may be his first virgin, which sounds shallow, but maybe that will be extra special.
Personally, I think the extra special ego-boosting part for him is that you will have no one to compare him to. The hard part for him is he will feel a large amount of pressure to make it perfect for you, since it is your first time.
2007-01-29 05:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun, relax, you have nothing to fear. You are obviously the woman of his dreams or why else would he be marrying you. You will be the perfect bride, untainted by any man, and he will be honoured to know that you are pure and all his to love and be with forever. You are all any man wants for a wife, good luck
2007-01-29 05:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just dont let him or yourself get drunk then you will both enjoy each other intimately with a license to allow you ...lol
2007-01-29 05:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by aussiejoe58 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋