Ok so i've realized now that my urge to tell his fiance about our relationship and his promises to me were feelings of revenge. But don't i have a right to want to get even? Why should i get the crap end of the stick, and he gets to go home like nothing has happened? He deserves for her to know the truth as much as she does. Am i evil? I was in the dark about him being engaged, i am not the bad person here, i fell in love with who he pretended to be... if i were the fiance i would want to know about his cheating ways!! anyone else in a similar situatioon?
2007-01-28 20:19:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ignore all these replies that go on about "2 wrongs dont make a right" and "is it really going to make you feel better"
Revenge is sweet. Anyone that disagrees hasnt had the knife in the heart the way we have felt it....
Go get him Girl!
2007-01-28 20:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear this. its never easy to learn this. but dont do anything for revenge. that makes you a bad person. but his partner deserves to know the truth. try this: go to his house when he isnt home and introduce yourself. ask if she has a few minutes because you have something to tell her. calmly explain how it happened and try not to accuse her. if the both of you can talk reasonably then you will feel better. and if you both double team him there is no better way to destroy his life and he will think twice before doing that again. i hope you find someone better. good luck:)
2007-01-29 04:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not in a similar situation, but I would definitely tell his fiance. She deserves to know the truth. He will keep cheating on her and breaking hearts just like he did to you. TELL HER! It's the right thing to do.
2007-01-29 04:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by rtobor84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really understand how u feel...it feels like being a loser seeing him go scott free....but you wont feel the same way in the long run. Trust me ignoring him completely and moving on is the best thing you can do for yourself. And he will regret it..maybe not now but def in time to come. It is very true that 'what you do comes back to you'....he will learn it. Let the loser go ahead for the worst to come....he's a sore loser! He's not worth even thinking abt revenging!
2007-01-29 04:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by sunheri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am very sorry for your hurt. Is telling her going to make you hurt any less? Is it going to change what he did to both of you? You have the right to want revenge, but do you really think you have the right to hurt her to get it? I don't think you are going to feel any better, but you do what you feel you need to do. Just realize that she may choose to forgive him this one. So if you are just trying to tear him from her so he will hurt...it may not work.
2007-01-29 04:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand, she deserves to know the truth. On the other hand, she probably won't believe you. Wanting revenge is only natural but you risk damaging your own reputation by telling her. If you do decide to tell her, do so anonymously.
2007-01-29 04:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by ninasscreanname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I was in a similar situation during a identity crisis while watching Jerry Springer and in my mind took on the role of one of the guests.
2007-01-29 04:31:31 · answer #7 · answered by kook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pretended that he was a free man, than you are right to tell his fiancee and let her know what sort of guy she plans of marrying. The guy was using you for his own pleasures and he deserves what's coming.
2007-01-29 04:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Oldies from Country Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation, I felt the same way,
Here's what I did.
I called his house and acted as if I didn't know he was with someone, and asked for him.
That was enough to cause problems, and I really didn't do anything.
hahahaaaaa
That is not to evil.
2007-01-29 04:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Cally e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is indeed difficult to let things go so easily... donot think about what is right or wrong .. the bottomline is you got hurt ..
You can tell her .. well his finace should know... after all he is a cheater and his fiance should know about it... who knows he might hurt her also in future...
2007-01-29 05:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋